Marketing / Higher Education Administration
Growing up we honestly never thought we’d be dads. Gay marriage wasn’t legal, so parenthood felt even more unlikely. Luckily our country changed. We adopted our daughter, Sydney, and we are grateful every day that we can be parents. We both work full-time, but Brian is in his element when he’s baking with Sydney and Jason loves making memories and planning family adventures. We’ve always felt like a future family of four, and know we have a lot more love to give another little one. We admire and appreciate the courage it takes for you to consider an adoption plan, and hope to get to know you.
Being adoptive parents has been the greatest joy of our lives. We wake up every day so grateful we have the opportunity to be dads. As parents, we want our daughter, and any other children that may come into our family, to know they are loved, special and they are enough just as they are. We will help them be and become anything they want, but want them to know they are amazing just by being themselves. Authenticity, kindness, and hard work are the three core values we’ve built our family on. Ultimately we hope to create memories together; all while leaving the world better than we found it.
Starting and growing our family through adoption has always been our first choice. Being a same-sex couple, we know very well that love is what makes a family. As parents, we are dedicated to having our home be a place where everyone can be and become the best version of themselves. Your child will always know their adoption story and where they came from.
We live outside Salt Lake City in a quiet, established neighborhood with several young families, like ours. We are within walking distance of a neighborhood park and elementary school. When we were house hunting, we specifically chose this neighborhood because it would be welcoming for our future family. We purchased our home as a "fixer-upper." We often enjoy working on home projects together. Building our first nursery is our favorite project to date. We have a very supportive family and friend network who live nearby including Jason’s mom and two sisters, and Brian’s dad and sister.
We're homebodies at heart and love bringing people we love together to celebrate. We enjoy hosting game and movie nights and have hosted annual Oscar and Halloween parties. We also love being physically active together and have run multiple marathons and regularly enjoy Crossfit. Brian considers himself a “nerd.” He loves all things Star Wars and Star Trek, and can’t wait to one day teach our kids to play video games. Jason enjoys home design projects and being involved in our local community. We both work full-time: Brian in administration at a university and Jason in marketing.
About Jason (written by Brian): Jason is always striving to be better, and reaching towards what's next. Complacency is a no-go. He works hard to achieve whatever it is that he's set out to do and then is on to the next challenge. Jason is an excellent communicator, and sensitive to what's going on in other people's lives. He is caring, patient, and kind - and I know everyone says that about their spouse, but it’s true! He is thoughtful and thinks birthdays are one of the most amazing things to celebrate - because he loves you and you’re involved in his life.
About Brian (written by Jason): Brian isn't just a great partner, he's also the best dad. He's the rock of our family. He's dependable and always knows what to do in any crisis. He's the cook in our house and Sydney loves baking with him. He's full of love and Sydney just loves spending time with him. I consider myself so lucky I met and married my best friend. Brian makes me laugh daily. He's pushed me to do things I never would've done if I hadn't met him. Creating a family with Brian is the greatest joy of my life and something I will never take for granted.
Facts About Jason:
*Has always loved politics. He watched his first presidential national convention when he was 8, worked on his first political campaign when he was 14, and interned at a U.S. Senator’s office in high school.
*Has a sweet tooth. He once ate an entire bag of candy corn in one sitting.
*Is a Kelly Clarkson superfan. He's seen her live in concert at least eight times.
*Loves movies. He wakes up early every year to watch the Oscar nominations live and won his first Oscar predictions contest in 1998, the year Titanic won Best Picture.
*Went to Boston University and lived two blocks away from Fenway Park the year the Red Sox "reversed the curse" and won the World Series for the first time in 86 years.
Facts about Brian... He:
*Is stronger than he looks. He can back squat 400 lbs!
*Has two tattoos. They both pay tribute to the science fiction he loves: Star Trek and Battlestar Galactica.
*Is scuba certified. He once saw an octopus living in a wine bottle at the bottom of the ocean.
*Loves movie soundtracks. He can often tell you what's happening in a movie (that he's seen) based on the song.
*Taught law in India for a summer during law school. He spent his weekends and any free time experiencing India and its culture.
We first met in 2009 at the Salt Lake County Democratic Party Convention, shortly after Barack Obama's first win. Jason was on the board of the Young Democrats of Utah and Brian was (somewhat begrudgingly) helping a local candidate run for office. We quickly became close friends, but we didn't begin dating until 2010.
We love you more than you may ever know. You are enough just as you are and don’t have to prove your worth to anyone. Never doubt your dreams, and we are here to support you in whatever those may be. Ultimately, be yourself, be kind, work hard, and never settle.
We adopted our daughter, Sydney, through a private, open adoption in 2018. Sydney's birth mom attends her birthday parties and follows her childhood through our social media handles. We would love to again have an open adoption with open communication and annual visits but would respect your wishes and desires.