Program Manager / Nurse
Caucasian / Other
None / Buddhist
Hi! Thank you for taking the time to learn more about who we are! We're a transracial couple living in the beautiful Pacific Northwest after moving from Kate's home country a few years ago. We’ve been looking forward to becoming parents for a long time. Now that we’re settled into the comfy house we’ve been renovating, we're ready to take the next step! We’re in the 13th year of our collaborative, happy marriage and enjoy many activities together, including trying out new recipes and going for long walks. We share our spacious backyard with plenty of homegrown veggies and three curious chickens, who provide both delicious eggs and endless entertainment. Both of us are eagerly looking forward to sharing the family life we so enjoy!
Kate grew up just north of London, in the UK, where she lived with her parents and her older sister. She loves playing with computers and electronics, but after she completed college and had run her own business for a while, she realized she wanted to train as a nurse. She went back to college after a few years' break and has been nursing ever since. Although she's an outspoken advocate for her patients, she's sometimes pretty shy. She very much enjoys tinkering with her projects or curling up and listening to music.
Kathryn was raised by two educators in the Puget Sound region alongside her younger sister, with plenty of time spent outdoors. Creativity and curiosity have always made her tick - some of her favorite activities are making pieces of art, learning about new subjects, traveling, and taking in stories. With degrees in theatre arts, she has built a career working with a variety of educational organizations, including elementary schools, a museum, and colleges. Kathryn loves a long conversation with someone she's close to but can be quiet in new company. She prefers a long walk with Kate or reading at home to a crowded party.
Over time, we realized that we would rather pour our time, resources, and energy into creating a home filled with opportunity and love than into the (very difficult for us) process of becoming pregnant. As we've learned more about the adoption world, we've also come to deeply value the honor and responsibility of being chosen to become part of a wider family dedicated to helping a child grow and flourish.
We live in a cozy two-bedroom house with a big backyard and helpful, friendly neighbors. We've spent the past few years completely remodeling our home ourselves, from pulling out old electrical wiring to framing and installing new windows. We know every inch of this house now and we love the warm, light-filled space we've created as well as the beautiful views of green trees from our living room. Our walkable family neighborhood is five minutes from our city's historic downtown, waterfront, and farmer's market. We regularly take long walks, visiting the many nearby parks and picking up fresh bread (and usually cookies!) from our local bakery on the way home. A great elementary school is a couple of blocks away and opens up its parking lot to the neighborhood music and arts festival every year. Kathryn's mom and her wife (retired college professors) live about 15 minutes away. Kathryn's dad and his wife (retired K-12 principals) live across town. We see them all often, sharing meals, and talking about books and shows we've been enjoying. Kate's mum (retired nurse) and her husband live in Cornwall. We fly over to visit most years, but also chat every week, checking in on garden and wildlife updates. Our wonderful circle of friends live near and far, some in town, some a couple of hours away, and some scattered across the world. We connect with them all as often as possible, whether through texting, video calls, or dinner dates.
Kate is a deeply loving person who is genuinely curious about the world. She has a knack for seeing anything as possible, tracking down the 'how to' and then working at it until she accomplishes what she set out to do. She’s also hilarious, with a dry sense of humor and an instinct for finding the fun in life.
Kathryn’s compassionate and thoughtful nature comes through in everything that she does. She's considerate and careful, seeing the importance and connections between actions and their impacts, and is able to bring that insight into daily life. She's also creative and artistic, and her vision is a big part of what has made our home so special.
We met on OKCupid, each of us looking for friends after moving to a new place. Neither of us was sure if our first in-person meeting was a date, but we stayed in touch and quickly realized that we were a great match. We ended up traveling between our towns to meet up and Kathryn moved in with Kate after seven months. Fourteen years later and we've never doubted we made the right choice!
Kathryn recently heard Suneel Gupta talk about a Picasso quote that he shares with his daughters daily: “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” We both think this is excellent advice that reflects our hopes for our future child - that they will value their own passions and interests, while also reaching out to be a positive part of the wider world.
To us, an open adoption means that a child knows their history, can grow into their identity surrounded by love and can maintain a connection with their family of origin, who will be able to see that their decision was a good one. Beyond this, we look forward to exploring and building a relationship together with our future child's birth parent(s). We expect the ways we connect to change over time but to always have the well-being of the child we all love at the center of every decision. As we move forward, we're learning so much and will continue to be open to what this story brings all of us.