Welcome! Meet:

Brian + Kate

Attorney / Part Time Attorney/ Stay at Home Mom

New Jersey

Caucasian

Christian

All About Brian & Kate
Why Adoption?
Gallery
Family and Home
How We Met
Advice to Future Child
Perspectives on Open Adoption
Favorites

All About Brian & Kate

Hi!

We are Kate and Brian! We met back in 2015 while we were in our first year of law school. We were married in 2019, and have since grown our family to include our "fur-baby", Moe, who we adopted from a shelter in 2020. He has been the best, most loyal companion and we cannot imagine life without him. In 2022, we had our son, Brady. He was born 6 weeks early and spent a month in the NICU. He is doing much better now thanks to the help from countless doctors and nurses. Despite the scary start we had following his early birth, Brady has brought endless joy to our lives. Our prayer is to bring another child into our family through adoption.

We just moved into our new home in New Jersey in August of 2024. Our home is in a quiet, safe neighborhood and we’re located within the neighborhood’s cul-de-sac. There are lots of children in our neighborhood for our kids to make friends with! Our town is very family friendly and safe. There is lots to do outside as the town is filled with parks and farms. The school system is also excellent. We believe we've found the perfect place to raise our children.

Why Adoption?

Due to our son’s premature birth, he had a number of medical issues. On top of that, Kate ended up being diagnosed with Postpartum Preeclampsia which led her back to the hospital a few days after giving birth. After learning that these issues were all likely to occur again with a second pregnancy, we decided to pursue adoption.

Adoption has always been something we were considering regardless of the medical issues that occurred in our first pregnancy. My (Kate’s) dad was adopted from Germany, so the power and beauty of adoption has never been lost on me. After seeing how adoption helped to create my Dad’s family (which was filled with fun, support and unconditional love), I always knew that adoption was something I wanted to consider for my future family too.

It is also exciting for us to think that we are not the only ones in our family considering adoption. We each have a little brother, and they are both considering adoption as well! We think it’s so wonderful and important that our future child will be a part of a family that was created in so many different and amazing ways! We also value the fact that our child will be able to seek support and guidance from others in our family who have also been adopted (Kate’s dad is so excited and thankful to be that support for our future child).

Family & Home

We live in a safe, quiet neighborhood in an extremely safe town in New Jersey. Our home has 4 bedrooms (one of which is currently set up as a nursery so we are fully prepared to bring a new baby home)! We have lots of room for children to play - we have a finished basement, a very large living room and an additional bonus room on the second floor. We also have a large backyard that will be perfect for our kids to run around and play outside. We can’t wait for the day that they are old enough to install a playhouse outside for them. Our town is filled with great parks, farms, and restaurants! There are so many activities for kids in our area.

We are very close with our families too. We see our parents and siblings often, and they love spending time with our son. They are also a wonderful support system for us. The phrase “it takes a village” is very true when you are raising children and we’re lucky to have an amazing village.

How others describe me

Brian would describe Kate as warm, caring, loyal and fun. Kate is so hard working but nothing comes ahead of taking care of Brady. No matter what else she has going on, Kate always puts our son first. She is extremely patient and is always looking to help others. Kate is always trying to volunteer and help those in need. I can’t wait to watch her instill that in our children as they get older.

Kate would describe Brian as protective, caring, hardworking and very funny. Even on the days when Brian has a million things to do at work, he still always finds the time and energy to play with our son for hours before he goes to bed. Brian works entirely remotely so he also takes the time to eat lunch with us every day too. When Brian’s not working or playing with our son, he also always finds the time to do work around the house. He is incredibly handy - he has installed light fixtures, sinks, etc and he even built a fence around our house. Brian is also very funny- he is always making me laugh. He’s always up for an adventure which I very much appreciate. One weekend, he decided to surprise me with a trip to Boston that he literally planned that day! He really knows how to make any random day fun and memorable.

How We Met

We met in law school in 2015. We were close friends for over two years before we started dating! Our friendship was fostered through being there for each other while dealing with all the stress that comes from getting through school. We always found ways to have fun and relax despite our crazy schedules. This ultimately made us even stronger as a couple - especially when we had to care for our premie baby.

Advice to Future Child

One of the most important things we want to teach our children is to be kind to EVERYONE. We were taught growing up the importance of lending a hand to others, regardless of what they can do for you in return. We want to instill the same level of thoughtfulness and care in our children. We want them to be excited and eager to help others in any capacity they can. As a child, Kate and her brother went with their mom to volunteer at their local soup kitchen and meal delivery service for the elderly. This led Kate to pursue a legal career in public interest where she is currently working to combat discrimination in New Jersey. It is so important to both Kate and Brian to encourage their children to want to do similar work as they grow up.

The other important advice we will one day give our children is to pursue their happiness. Too often, we are all more concerned about the “likes” we get on Facebook posts than we are about actually pursuing what makes us happy in real life. We want our children to shamelessly pursue what will make them happy and proud. And we want them to know we will stand by them and support them every step of the way while they chase their dreams.

Perspectives on Open Adoption

We are looking to pursue a semi-open adoption. We would be happy to share frequent updates including emails and pictures. We want our child’s birth parents to know that their child is happy, healthy and thriving.

Favorites

Brian

Favorite Movie: Favorite TV Shows: Madam Secretary, White Collar, The Night Agent
Favorite Holiday/Tradition: One of my favorite holidays is St. Patrick’s Day! I am Irish so it’s fun to celebrate my heritage. Every year, Kate makes corned beef and cabbage. Next year we are going to try to make homemade Irish Soda Bread!
Hobbies/Interests: running, working out, walking, boating
Dream Vacation: Like Kate - anywhere with good weather and a beach!
If I Could Choose a Superpower: To be able to lift anything! Would come in handy when I’m doing house projects!

Kate

Favorite Movie: Pride and Prejudice
Favorite Holiday/Tradition: Christmas Eve! When I was a kid, my parents would have a big party on Christmas Eve that included all our friends and family. We now carry on that tradition too! Santa comes to the house on Christmas Eve to give each child one gift early before he makes his way around the world! We play all kinds of games and enjoy each other’s company. It is truly my favorite day of the year.
Hobbies/Interests: gardening, walking, hiking, cooking
Dream Vacation: Any place with a beach, pool and warm weather!
If I Could Choose a Superpower: The power to end hunger and suffering.