Accountant / HR Professional
Minnesota
Caucasian
Christian
Thank you for taking the time to read about our family and we hope to hear more about your story and who you are as a person. We’re praying over you, your heart, your health, and your future baby as you explore upcoming decisions. Thank you for pressing in as you’re weighing what options you think are best for you and your child.
David and I have been married for over 10 years and have had adoption on our minds from the beginning. We have two crazy biological boys now that keep us very busy (and laughing).
Anders was born in New Jersey in October 2017, and has been our loud and outspoken one since then. He’s our social, extroverted, and outgoing kid that loves to meet new people and make connections. Anders is very active with seemingly boundless energy to engage and move. Eli, our son born in June 2020, is equally as active but enjoys a good snuggle and book too. Eli likes more one-on-one connections, art projects, and storytelling.
Since we started dating and considering marriage, we talked about adoption being a part of our family. We’ve had friends and family who have adopted and found that to be a beautiful way to build a family. When they adopted they had less emphasis on ‘open adoptions’ but we like the idea of knitting you into our family as well, not only raising a wonderful child. Family, love, and community are built in many ways, which is why we are excited about adoption.
Lindsay grew up in the suburbs of Minneapolis and David in the country in Wisconsin, so we decided the middle ground would be an urban area outside of Minneapolis. It doesn’t have to make sense but we love the area! What drew us to the area was the small town feel while still having so many languages and ethnicities represented. Our restaurant options are fantastic in the area with a favorite being a local Mexican place within walking distance from our house. We have neighbors from Somalia, Tibet, and Ecuador on each side, which makes our Minnesota life feel a bit more international. We are closest to our Ecuadorian neighbors with their son being close to our kids’ age. Therefore the kids are back and forth between the houses after school and in the summers, which is deeply meaningful for us. Our church is within walking distance of our house and there are frequent volunteering events through the church in our community. Our house has two playgrounds nearby and a lake to walk around - which is great for Eli learning how to ride a bike and doing walks as a family.
Family is really important to us and it's a priority that the boys are close with their grandparents, aunts/uncles, and cousins. On David's side Anders and Eli have four boy cousins and two girl cousins, all in Minnesota, with whom we frequently spend time. We travel annually with David's parents within the US in their RV or internationally as well. On Lindsay’s side there is one boy cousin and two girl cousins. Lindsay’s mom is very outgoing, a fast hugger, and a great cook. Lindsay’s dad is more reserved, likes riding motorcycles, and gets picked on by Lindsay and her sister Kris. He’s a good sport growing up with all girls and between the two of them, they love spoiling Anders and Eli.
What David loves about Lindsay:
Lindsay is the engine that keeps our family moving, always looking for ways to teach and grow. She has an adventurous spirit and is well liked by our family, friends, and community. This largely seems to come from her ability to listen and genuinely care about people more than anyone I know, not shying away from deep conversations. Our boys love her and constantly seek her attention, whether for a soccer game, to read a story, or just snuggle. Lindsay loves Jesus and it shows, in the way she cares for others, whether they are part of our family or someone she barely knows.
What Lindsay loves about David:
David is the anchor of the family that does a great job managing our family vibes, our finances and balancing all the crazy ideas that come from me or the boys. He’s faithful and dedicated to our family, our community, and his work. I remember when I first met David in our 20s that his life goal was not centered around work and making loads of money, but instead having a solid family. That stood out to me at the time but really explains why he’s such a strong partner and steady dad for the boys. Steady doesn’t mean boring for David as he’s hands on wrestling with the boys, playing soccer, teaching them ultimate frisbee, and the occasional throwback to N64 video games. He’s the best!
We met through a mutual friend at work in January 2013, shortly after finishing college. David had just returned from a seven week stint in the Middle East, while Lindsay was preparing for a two month trip to India. We initially bonded over our love of exploring, got to know each other through a volleyball league and attending the same church, and started spending more free time together until we began dating. We married in December 2014, settling into our communities in Minnesota while David worked and Lindsay went through grad school. During this time we bought our first home, joined a Bible study, traveled around, and adjusted to married life. Upon Lindsay finishing grad school, she took a rotational position with a New Jersey based company, paving the way for us to move several times over her eight years, with moves to New Jersey, Pennsylvania, the UK, back to Minnesota, Switzerland, and finally back to Minnesota where we live now. Along the way, we added Anders (2017) and Eli (2020), two boys that we love very dearly. It’s great for us to be back in Minnesota where we have support from our families, friends, and church communities. We’ve been excited to grow our family through adoption, and look forward to welcoming our next child!
We want our house and our family to be a grounding place for our kids where they can ask challenging questions, grow in their faith, and process life together. We want to know our kids both individually and also have a strong collective family unit, so we intentionally do both family time and dates/trips with the kids individually. Our two boys are completely unique from one another and so we want them to be affirmed in who God created them to be and help them discover who they are. We want our boys to be independent thinkers and independent individuals who love living in community with others. Therefore, we are active within our church and city, we teach them how to steward their money generously and thoughtfully, how to consider other perspectives, and how to go by themselves to the playground. We learned when living in Switzerland that allowing kids to safely grow in their independence leads to confidence in oneself, which we strive for with the boys. Also by living in different parts of the world we’ve learned about different cultures and actively volunteer with the immigrant community in Minneapolis. This is mostly through friendship and showing them the wonderful things about the area and learning about their culture and food (lots of food!).
It’s important to us that the birth family feels valued and connected, while respecting the wishes for openness. We hope to share regular updates through photos, letters, phone calls, or emails as the child grows. Our family enjoys traveling and therefore, is open to in-person visits once a year, especially for special milestones and moments. Our desire is to build a meaningful, respectful relationship that feels natural and supportive for everyone involved. We see that openness can be a beautiful way to expand our family and give the child a deeper understanding of where they come from and how deeply they are loved by everyone.