Professor of Teaching / Child and Family Mental Health Therapist
Oregon
Caucasian
None
Hello! We are Paige and Evan and we are grateful for you taking the time to get to know us. We are two lifelong learners living in the Willamette Valley in Oregon who are excited to add to our family through open adoption. Though we share much in common, we also enjoy our differences. Coming from a smaller family, being welcomed into a larger extended family was a fun and new experience for Evan. Having lived her life in larger cities, Paige is now able to envision raising chickens and a vegetable garden in the countryside, something she used to only dream of when living in concrete jungles. Inheriting a green thumb from his parents, Evan is helping Paige find her own style of gardening. When the weather doesn't permit outside activities, we can be found painting pottery at a local store, being entertained by our three pets Nessie (dachshund-corgi dog), Aries and Vino (tuxedo cats), or enjoying our favorite show, Taskmaster.
We both consider ourselves very fortunate to love the work we do. Supporting each other in our personal and professional goals, we are able to learn from each other and those we work with. After having been a K-12 public school educator for the last decade, Paige made the change from teaching to providing mental health counseling for children and families in our community. This change came as a result of following her desire to build relationships with the families and students she taught. She recognized that she wanted to provide the support that she wished her family had when she was a child. Paige is now in a position that challenges, encourages, and teaches her something every day. Evan has also recently transitioned in his career, from an instructor to a professor of teaching position at the local university. Coming from a family of educators, Evan cares deeply about education and how to best help students learn. The new position allows him to establish his research program which explores what students know as they begin his course, and how their understanding progresses throughout the year. Evan combines this passion with his love of sport, coaching Ultimate (Frisbee) with two of his good friends for the college women's team.
Having met later in our lives, we agreed from the start that we wanted to build a family together. We had many talks about how we wanted to do this. Adoption was a frequent subject of our conversations and we were considering it for our family’s future. After being unsuccessful for several years in our attempt to conceive, we agreed that adoption would be a piece of building our family sooner than our original plan. In researching our possible avenues, open adoption spoke to both of us and our family values.
We are fortunate to live in a small city that has a strong connection to agriculture, resulting in many trails, parks and other ways to connect to nature. Even our quiet neighborhood has a dedicated path that is maintained by community volunteers. We both have our own individual ways to intentionally spend time in nature; Evan can be found gardening and maintaining our yard and Paige can be found on trail runs with our dog, Nessie. Evan has inherited his green thumb from his mom, Linda, and they spend days together in the sunshine weeding and planting. Paige is still learning her way around the yard and all of its glories, although she is extremely excited for Evan to build a chicken coop.
Some of our favorite times spent with our family & friends is hosting friendsgivings, winter festivities, birthdays, and themed gatherings (i.e. a Hot Ones party where we sampled the hottest hot sauces in the world) sprinkled throughout the year. We gather monthly for pup-hikes with our local friend group to get out in nature. We are also fortunate to have many University sports teams just down the road and we enjoy going to the events when we're able.
We are so grateful to have support through our family, friends and community that we have created. From coaching, spending time with our family & friends and learning new board games we are always reminded of how it is in the small moments that we are enriching our life.
From Paige:
My mom is my best friend and continues to provide security, support and genuine love.
I am the middle of three girls, my older sister, Lacey and my younger sister, Shelby. Many of my happiest childhood memories take place in Kiawah, South Carolina, covered in sand & salt water. It was where we went for all of our vacations. We drove there in our minivan straight through the Smoky Mountains. It was where I learned how to ride a bike, play the card game "Hearts," and where I discovered my love of the ocean. My maternal great-grandma Syl, is a touchstone for my mom's family. Although little, she was a force. I have a memory of her cooking a farmhouse meal that consisted of recently caught fried catfish and homemade biscuits; delicious. The value of family is something that is a core of mine, and fortunately Evan's as well.
From Evan:
I grew up in Oregon with my parents Jay and Linda and my brother Jacob. My brother is 11 years older than me and is technically my half-brother though I simply call him my brother. My maternal grandmother also lived just down the street from us. This gave me many role models to grow up with. My brother's birth father is native Alaskan, but lost contact in our childhood. Our father, Jay, then legally adopted my brother. My childhood was a happy one. Some of my strongest memories of my early life are of my family: my father comforting me when I was upset, telling me it was ok to cry as he held me after I hurt myself, walking to elementary school with my mom making puns and playing word games, spending time at my Grandma Holly's house down the street, and daily family dinners spent talking about everything that had happened or what I had learned in school. My father always encouraged me to be outside and active, coaching my soccer teams through middle school. My mother and grandmother were the creative ones, teaching me to make art, tend the garden, or create an imaginary world amongst the backyard trees. Both of my parents taught me to cook as soon as I could safely reach over the stove. Though, they each gave me different instructions for how to boil water.
How Evan describes Paige:
In Paige, I have found my person. It took us a long while to meet. After several failed long term relationships, including an engagement that was called off, in a silver lining sort of way, the bumpy road had taught me what I needed in a partner. Paige and I tackled the big issues very early in our relationship, and forged a very strong foundation.
I am so excited to explore all that life has to give with this wonderful woman. I am perpetually awed by her ability to quickly recognize what others need. I know she will make a fantastic mother. Just as she has supported my growth as a human, I am confident she will foster the best in our child, should we be chosen by a birth family. Life has not always been the kindest to us, but we have always stuck by each other, persevering through it all. I can feel how we make each other stronger.
How Paige describes Evan:
I am so lucky to get to spend the rest of my life with my best friend, to get to go on their journey of starting a family with a person who no matter what has shown me patience, kindness and so much love. He is the person I know I can call, who will listen to my stories and share his own. Evan is my safe space to be vulnerable with and my favorite person to be silly with. I know that he will go the extra mile for those he cares for. I know that I have my moments of being a bit of a mess, but he is always there to let me have all of my feelings and will simply provide a shoulder and an ear. I know he will be an amazing dad and that we will both devote ourselves to our family the same way we do towards each other.
We met the good ol’ fashion way, matching on an internet app. We fell in love watching soccer games and exploring our cities, showing each other our personalities by organizing fun and unique dates along the way (i.e. Top Golf while wearing shark onesies). In the past three years, we married each other and bought our first home. Our wedding ceremony was intimate, with just our parents. We followed it up with two celebrations for our extended family and friends, one in Oregon, the other in St. Louis, Paige’s hometown.
We have done our best to provide you with freedom and to support you in the process of finding yourself. Most of all we want you to be comfortable with who you are. Through kindness, consideration, and looking for the good in others, we hope you find a community that will continue to support your journey through life, all of its difficulties and joys. There will be many of both, and lessons to learn from each.
We see open adoption as the most supportive way to raise a child while providing the space to create an intentional relationship with a child’s birth family. With our enjoyment of hosting gatherings, we would like to welcome our child’s birth family into our community. We understand that this relationship will be one that is ever-evolving. We want to provide a strong foundation upon which our child will grow and explore this world, filling our child’s days with opportunities to be a fearlessly curious learner. To our child, we hope to model our values of treating others the way you want to be treated, communication, and always looking for the good in people. But above all else, we want our child to feel loved and accepted for exactly who they are and who they want to be.