Computer Architect / College Professor
Arizona
Caucasian
Catholic
We’ve been together for more than 20 years, growing side by side through college, careers, and all the small, everyday moments that make up a shared life. We met in college and have essentially grown up together, learning who we are as individuals and partners along the way. Through every new season of life, we’ve built our relationship on humor, patience, and deep care for each other.
Our days are full of the simple joys that keep us connected, including morning coffee on the patio, long walks with our two dogs, and cooking together. We make time for what brings us joy and balance, whether that’s a weekend road trip, cheering on our nieces and nephews, or hosting friends for game night.
Together, we balance each other in all the right ways. John brings a calm steadiness, creative problem-solving, and a dry sense of humor that keeps life fun. Sam brings warmth, imagination, and an instinct for creating community wherever she goes. We share a deep respect for one another and an easy rhythm that comes from years of shared experiences and growth.
We’ve spent a lot of time imagining what it will mean to become parents: reading bedtime stories, teaching kindness, encouraging curiosity, and creating new traditions together. Adoption feels like the most natural way for us to grow our family, and we’re ready to open our hearts and our home to a child who will always know they belong, are deeply loved, and are surrounded by family and friends who will cheer them on every step of the way.
For many years, we’ve hoped to grow our family. Like many couples, we’ve faced challenges with infertility, and while that experience was difficult, it also brought clarity. It gave us space to reflect deeply on what parenthood truly means, not just the desire to have a child, but the commitment to nurture, teach, and love unconditionally. Through those years, we poured our hearts into building a strong partnership, a welcoming home, and meaningful careers that allow us to be present, grounded, and secure in the life we’ve created together. We’re grateful to have those foundations in place as we take this next step toward becoming parents.
Adoption feels like the path we were always meant to take. It reflects the way we understand family, built on love, care, and the willingness to show up for one another day after day. We’re drawn to adoption because it’s grounded in connection and courage, and because it mirrors the kind of love we hope to model for our child: open, inclusive, and full of gratitude.
We have deep respect for the strength and compassion it takes to make an adoption plan. We know it’s not a simple decision, and we will always approach it with humility and care. Our promise is to create a home where a child feels safe, celebrated, and deeply connected to their story, one where they’ll always know how loved they are and how much their life was hoped and prepared for.
Our home in Chandler, Arizona, is a calm and cozy place where friends and family feel welcome and where we hope a child will feel safe and completely loved. It’s filled with sunlight, laughter, and (usually) the smell of something good baking in the kitchen. We share it with our two dogs, Nikki and Bo, who bring fun and affection to our everyday life. They’re gentle, playful, and always close by, usually following us from room to room or waiting by the door for their next walk.
We love spending time in our backyard, whether we’re swimming, gardening, or sitting under the string lights at night, talking about our day. It’s a space that already feels full of love, and we can easily imagine it echoing with a child’s laughter (and the dogs happily joining in).
Our neighborhood is safe, diverse, and full of life, with nearby parks, bike trails, and a library we visit often. We walk or ride our bikes to the farmers' market and know many of our neighbors by name. It’s the kind of community where people wave from their driveways and stop to chat on evening walks.
Family plays a big role in our lives. John’s mom, sister, and brother all live nearby, and Sunday dinners with them have become a cherished weekly tradition. Sam’s parents and sister’s family live out of state, but we stay close through frequent visits, video calls, and shared traditions, such as baking cookies at Christmas and seeing the holiday lights together. Our friends and their children are like extended family, too, and we can’t wait for our child to grow up surrounded by so much love and support.
From Sam: John is the most thoughtful and steady person I know. He has a quiet strength that makes everyone around him feel calm and cared for. Whether he’s helping a friend, fixing something around the house, or making me laugh with one of his corny jokes, he brings patience and warmth to everything he does. He’s deeply loyal and has a big heart for the people (and dogs) he loves. I know he’ll be an incredible dad—gentle, attentive, and endlessly supportive, the kind of parent who listens and always makes his child feel safe.
From John: Sam is one of the most caring and inspiring people I’ve ever met. She believes in others wholeheartedly, from her students to our family and friends, and she has a gift for making people feel seen and valued. She brings creativity and lightness into our home, whether she’s baking something new, crafting, or gathering people together for a game night. I know she’ll be a loving, engaged mom who encourages our child to be curious, kind, and confident, and who will fill their life with imagination and joy.
We met as college freshmen when our dorm rooms were right next to each other. What began as late-night hallway conversations about everything from classes to music quickly grew into a close friendship and, eventually, something more. We spent those early years studying side by side, exploring new places, and learning what it meant to truly support someone through all of life’s changes.
More than twenty years later, we still have that same sense of curiosity and connection. We’ve grown together through graduate school, career milestones, and countless adventures, always finding ways to make each other laugh. What first drew us together—John’s steadiness and humor, and Sam’s warmth and optimism—has only deepened over time.
We both love teaching and learning new things. We’re a team in every sense, whether we’re solving a puzzle, tackling a project around the house, or dreaming about the future on a long walk with our dogs. Looking back, it feels like we’ve been building toward parenthood all along, learning to listen, laugh, and grow together—and we’re excited to take that next step as a family.
You are loved beyond measure. From the moment you enter our lives, we will remind you every day that you belong, that you are wanted, cherished, and deeply seen for who you are.
Life will bring joy, challenge, and everything in between, but you’ll never face it alone. We’ll be right beside you, cheering for your dreams, listening when you need to be heard, and helping you discover your own strengths and passions.
We hope you’ll stay curious about the world, kind to yourself and others, and brave enough to follow your heart. Know that it’s okay to make mistakes, to grow at your own pace, and to keep learning who you are along the way. Our greatest wish is for you to feel secure in the love that surrounds you. You’ll always have a home filled with warmth, laughter, and the steady reminder that you are enough, exactly as you are.
We believe that love grows through connection, and open adoption is a meaningful reflection of that. For us, adoption isn’t only about welcoming a child into our lives but also about honoring the relationships and experiences that shape their story.
We will always speak of our child’s birth family with honesty, respect, and compassion. Every story is unique, and we’ll help our child understand theirs in a caring, age-appropriate way. No matter the circumstances, our child will always know that their life began with hope and that they have been loved and cherished from the moment we met them.
We hope to build a relationship with our child’s birth family that feels natural and comfortable for everyone involved, one rooted in trust, care, and mutual respect. Whether that means sharing updates, photos, or visits, we’re committed to finding the right rhythm together. Our promise is to keep that door open where it’s healthy and possible, to honor our child’s full story, and to help them grow up proud of every part of who they are.