Welcome! Meet:

Raj + Crissy

Executive Leader/IT / Physician and Researcher

Pennsylvania

Asian / Caucasian

All About Raj & Crissy

We’re a family who believes that love makes a family, not just shared DNA. Our home is full of warmth, laughter, and a bit of joyful chaos—the kind that comes from kids, pets, and lots of love. We’re a blended family, which means our kids, Clay and Vikram, spend time in both our home and their other parents’ homes. This has taught us to value flexibility, kindness, and communication, and it’s helped us create a home built on love and trust. As we grow through adoption, we’re so excited to welcome a child who will be at the heart of our everyday lives—surrounded by the same love, stability, and support that define our family.

Our family includes four people—Raj, Crissy, Clay, and Vikram—plus three dogs, two cats, and two fish who keep things lively! We love spending time outdoors, hiking, making up games, and having family dinners. You can often find us cheering for Clay at soccer, Vikram at swimming, or curled up together watching a movie. We frequently cheer on our local sports teams, particularly the Pittsburgh Pirates. We love playing with our pets and often talk to them and about them. We also go to the theater (particularly to see musicals) and to the symphony. Crissy loves curling up on her favorite chair with a great book and one of our dogs. Raj loves playing guitar and building Lego masterpieces. We’re close with our extended family, and they’re just as excited as we are to welcome another child into our lives.

We’re grateful every day for the love we share and the laughter that fills our home. We feel lucky to have each other and to share a partnership built on love, humor, and balance—something we each see and cherish in the other.

Why Adoption?

From our very first conversations, we talked about having children together. As our relationship deepened, that dream became even more meaningful. From our very first conversations, we talked about having children together. As our relationship deepened, that dream became even more meaningful. After being diagnosed with infertility, we went through the ups and downs of treatment and IVF. As time passed, we found ourselves drawn more and more toward adoption—the idea of growing our family through love, openness, and connection felt deeply right to us. We realized that adoption wasn’t just another way to grow our family—it was the right way for us.

We feel that adoption allows us to multiply the love we already have in our family and to share it more widely—with a child, and hopefully with their birth family too. We are drawn to open adoption because we believe children benefit from having many sources of love, identity, and connection. We’re experienced co-parents, comfortable navigating different kinds of family relationships, and open to the many ways connection can look—whether through visits, phone calls, emails, or simply the shared knowledge that we’re always here.

We know that adoption involves both love and loss, and we deeply respect the courage and care that go into this decision. We want to honor your boundaries, your story, and your needs throughout this journey. More than anything, we’re excited and hopeful to continue building our family through open adoption—with love, gratitude, and an open heart.

Family & Home

We live in a tree-lined neighborhood in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, known for its top-rated schools and vibrant diversity. Ours is one of the most culturally rich communities in the country—on any given day, a walk down the main street brings you past local shops and restaurants, where you’ll hear a variety of languages and see neighbors from all walks of life. Our street feels like a true community. We look out for one another, host an annual block party, and greet each other with a wave or a smile. Neighbors range from large families to single elders, and whether it's sharing a conversation from the front porch or helping shovel snow from a neighbor’s sidewalk, there’s a real sense of connection here. It’s the kind of place where people still sit on their porches, watch the world go by, and say hello as dogs are walked and kids ride by on bikes. We carpool with our neighbors to take our children to after school activities and walk to playdates. 

We are very close to our families. Crissy’s parents live in Arizona, while her sisters are in Puerto Rico and Maryland. She and her sister Chelsey often catch up during their daily commutes with regular phone calls. We make it a point to call and sing to each other for every birthday, and Crissy talks to her parents at least once a week. She’s especially close with her niece and nephew in Puerto Rico, who even spent a week with us (without their parents!) last year. Crissy’s parents visit Pittsburgh multiple times a year. We typically take a vacation with Crissy’s family or experience an event together with siblings, parents, kids etc. We like taking advantage of visiting places that are warm in the winter and are hoping to attend the World Cup next year.  We love to spend holidays together when we are able even though it takes some travel. 

We see Raj’s family more frequently- as they are a driving distance away. We will drive to spend weekends together and attend birthdays etc. Raj’s parents and sister live in Virginia about 5 hours from Pittsburgh.

How others describe me

Raj says, “Crissy is resilient, intelligent, thoughtful, kind, dedicated, loving, and goofy. She loves freshly brewed coffee in the morning, never reads the instruction manuals before building something, and is committed to ensuring opportunities and experiences for her family. Crissy is reliable, perceptive, sweet, and curious.”

Crissy says, “Raj is kind, patient, caring, organized, hardworking, diligent, and dedicated. Raj is sometimes sarcastic, places family first, and always reads all the instruction manuals. He is passionate, flexible, strongly committed, and loving.”

how we met

How We Met

We were matched through a dating app where we aligned on almost every single thing, but lived five hours apart. We had a "secret" romance, as most of the world was fully isolated and quarantined. We spent a lot of time driving back and forth! This time, when the whole world was in isolation, allowed us to build a connection with each other's children. We made plans to have Raj and Vikram move to Pittsburgh and bought a house in our favorite neighborhood. We officially blended our families in a small ceremony on the beach joined by our closest family.

Advice to Future Child

We are here to love, support and celebrate you! We know that there will be all kinds of journeys and challenges for you. We will snuggle you and hold you. We will hold your hand and let go when you need to learn to walk. We will read you books before bed and sing you songs (sometimes off-key). We will advocate for what you need and fearlessly work to help you overcome any challenges. We will bug you to do homework. We will nag you to do your chores. We will stay up with you when you are sick. We will watch your favorite movie with you over and over again and memorize your favorite song (even if we don’t like it). We will celebrate your birthdays and also hold you when the world feels dark and scary. We cannot wait to meet you and see how you experience the wonders of the world.

Perspectives on Open Adoption

We fully embrace open adoption and the connection it brings. We know there will be moments that require patience, understanding, and care, but we believe that open and honest communication makes relationships stronger. For us, kindness, generosity, respect, and empathy are essential to navigating whatever comes our way. We want our child to know where they came from, to grow up proud of every part of who they are—from their story to their smile—and to feel deeply loved by all the people who helped shape their life. We also recognize how much courage and strength it takes to make the decision for adoption, and we have deep respect for the autonomy, wisdom, and heart it requires. Our hope is to build a healthy, respectful relationship with all those who care for this child—one rooted in trust and shared love.

Favorites

Raj
  • Favorite Movie: The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring
  • Favorite Holiday/Tradition: Placing candle lights on the windows before Christmas
  • Hobbies/Interests: playing guitar, building LEGO, maintaining a saltwater aquarium, playing board games, reading, and listening to music
  • Dream Vacation: New Zealand
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: The ability to fly
Crissy
  • Favorite Movie: Lilo and Stitch
  • Favorite Holiday/Tradition: Christmas morning coffee in a new mug custom made from pictures celebrating the year prior
  • Hobbies/Interests: reading/hiking
  • Dream Vacation: a combination of beach relaxation, hiking/activity and being completely unconnected electronically
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: photographic memory

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