Welcome! Meet:

Shane + Jordan

Data Analyst / Graphic Designer

Oregon

Caucasian

Baha'i

All About Shane & Jordan

Hi there! We’re Jordan and Shane. Thank you for taking the time to get to know us. We have been married since 2014 and have one biological son named Rumi. Jordan works as a graphic designer, and her creativity shows in everything she does. Shane works as a data analyst, perfect for his logical and justice-focused brain. But before that, we were both Montessori teachers! At home, you’d probably find Shane noodling on his guitar, playing video games, or cooking, while Jordan would be outside doing yardwork among the alpacas, chickens, and dogs, or tinkering with a project in the woodshop. We love cuddling up to watch anime and piling the whole family onto the paddleboard for a chill day on the river.
One of the brightest parts of our lives is our son, Rumi. He is independent and creative, deeply interested in outer space, and always wears his clothes backwards (on purpose). He spends most of his time outside, rain or shine, exploring and grazing for snacks in the garden like a big bunny. Being his parents is an immense gift. We try to parent with playfulness, curiosity, and respect. We’re eager to see him blossom into the role of big brother. He is just as excited as we are to grow our family and is never hesitant to share what he loves, whether it be a bite of a treat, a toy, or his knowledge.

Why Adoption?

Adoption has always felt like it would be a part of our family story. We believe that the entire human race is a family and that creating new family connections and communities through adoption is a spectacular way to make that more evident in the world. We spent time as a foster care family, providing a safe home to children whose families were facing difficulties. But, saying goodbye to the kids who came into our lives was heartbreaking. When we moved to trying to grow our family, we decided to start with a biological child and plans to adopt a younger sibling. In the process, we faced infertility struggles, which weren't easy, but we had always had a hope to adopt, so we started to pursue that path. We got put on a waiting list and began fertility treatments, which eventually led to the birth of our son. He is also super excited to grow our family, and we can't wait to see him blossom into the role of big brother.

Family & Home

We are lucky enough to live with Jordan’s parents. Having family close, always surrounded by love and support, is so important to us and how we hope to raise our children. At our house, Friday is movie night, Sundays are game night, and there is never a day without Legos scattered all over the floor. We live in a smaller city, where our neighborhood feels very rural, we have alpacas, and our neighbors have goats, horses, and pigs. However, we are actually just minutes away from the city center. We bike our son to and from school and to the grocery store. Most of our family works from home so we get to be together and share all the important moments, no matter how small. More widely spread, we have a hugely diverse and supportive community that we have found through our faith. We regularly travel to nearby cities to see friends or go on outdoor adventures.
Jordan has two sisters, one younger and one older, who love being aunties, and we see as much as we can, even though they live out of state.
Shane’s family lives in the Midwest, and we don't get to see them much. We travel every few years to visit his brother, Grandma, and friends. He recently lost his mother, with whom he was estranged, and doesn't have a relationship with his father. Shane spent major portions of his childhood homeless or living with friends who supported him. It has only strengthened our families resolve to provide safety, love and understanding to children in our lives in the best way we can.

How others describe me

Jordan describes Shane as goofy; he's always making up silly songs and never fails to bring a smile to our faces. He is supportive as a husband, father, and friend, incredibly clever, and has a gentle heart filled with empathy and concern for others, including animals, which often brings him to tears. He is a very clear and direct communicator and won't hesitate to stand up for himself, his family, or any soul in need. I playfully call him our indoor cat.
Shane Describes Jordan as deeply creative. Jordan has vision and willpower to turn her ideas into reality. From deciding to grab 4 alpacas and make it work to building custom furniture to fit her specific aesthetic and our needs. This creative thinking allows her to connect with people in deep ways, especially children. Jordan uses her unique personality to aid her as a mother and spouse ensuring every member of the family is cared for in the way they need.

how we met

How We Met

We met at an Oregon-based summer camp in 2013, where we volunteered as counselors. Shane, originally from the Midwest, was only supposed to come for the week, but all of his friends (which quickly grew to include Jordan after they met) convinced him the Pacific Northwest was the place he needed to be. At the end of camp, Jordan flew out to the Midwest to take a three-day road trip with him to move his whole life. After that, we started dating and got married a few months later. We’ve been married since 2014.

Advice to Future Child

Our deepest wish, above all else, is that you will be kind. There are many ways people define success, and we hope that you will not focus solely on material achievements, but instead look at the content of your character to validate your success. Each human is but a tiny piece of a whole, and you will be happier if you recognize that oneness and support and uplift others in whatever ways you can.

Perspectives on Open Adoption

We believe every child’s story is important, and we want them to know where they come from and who they are connected to. We are committed to openness and to building a relationship that feels right for everyone involved. We know that, whatever form it takes, we are not just adding a child to our family but welcoming the birth family into our lives as well.

Favorites

Shane
  • Favorite Movie: Kiki’s Delivery Service
  • Favorite Holiday/Tradition: We celebrate Ayyamiha, a Baha'i holiday that literally translates to “days of joy” and is 4 days long. There are no set traditions for Ayyamiha, but our family make little gift pockets that we get to open each day (kind of like a Christmas stocking) and I love it. Close second is Thanksgiving, because I love mashed potatoes!
  • Hobbies/Interests: music, video games & board games, Dungeons & Dragons
  • Dream Vacation: Tokyo, Japan
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: flying (it takes way too long to get everywhere in the car)
Jordan
  • Favorite Movie: Ponyo or Spirited Away
  • Favorite Holiday/Tradition: I love Halloween, getting to dress up as whatever you want, making costumes, seeing everyone else's costumes, it all brings me joy; and I have the biggest sweet tooth, so can't complain about the free candy.
  • Hobbies/Interests: woodworking, paddle boarding, hiking, painting & drawing, frogs
  • Dream Vacation: Japan- hot springs, architecture, nature
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: The ability to use any fruit as a cellphone

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