Senior Software Engineer and Developer / Homemaker
Hello, we are Brian and Brittany! Thank you for taking time to get to know us, our journey, and consider us as prospective parents. This is just the tip of the iceberg that is us. Get to know us; the good, the less good, quirks, personalities, hobbies, histories, and everything that makes us us. We are far from perfect, but we do our best and try to laugh all along the way. We can hardly wait for what lies ahead. In the infinite words of our son, Calvin, when asked about his thoughts on adopting a new little sibling, "I think it will be great! Because “tag” is more fun with three people."
We live in a quiet little lakeside town in the mountains of Utah with our two kids, Cecilia and Calvin. Brian is happily working remote while Brittany is at home or subbing occasionally at the kids elementary. We absolutely love our life, but still have that feeling of "someone is missing." And if we have learned anything in our 10+ years together, it's to never ignore an impression.
We were married while still in college, so we continued our studies and planned to start our family after graduation. Brian studied, and graduated in, Computer Information Technologies, while Brittany was studying Recreational Management. However, she had to stop at her Associates Degree when our daughter, Cecilia, decided it was time for her arrival in 2013.
Cecilia (or Cece, as we call her) was a birth control baby, and when you get to know her, it will come as no surprise that she decided on her own when it was time to come to our family! Cece has always been an adorable spitfire that we cherish in every way. Then, eighteen months later in 2015, we had our son, Calvin. This boy came into the world loud as he could be, and not much has changed! Kidding! But really, what kid isn't loud? Calvin is mechanically minded, the best snuggler, and an essential part of our family.
We discussed adoption a lot while dating. It was unclear whether or not Brittany would be able to have children due to overly erratic periods. But, even if we could bear our own children, we knew adoption was a likely path we would walk one day. Well, that day has arrived.
Now that we live in our quiet little lakeside town in the mountains of Utah, Brian is happily working remote, Brittany is working as a Special Education Aid at the kids elementary, and we have that feeling of "someone is missing." If we have learned anything in our 10 years together, it's to never ignore an impression.
Out of all the accomplishments and major events in our marriage, becoming parents has been the most remarkable. We truly love being parents and Cecilia and Calvin have already taught us so much about parenting. Though both of our current children are biologically ours, we have had to parent them quite differently to meet their individual needs. What works for one doesn't always work for the other. That variety makes things lively and makes each milestone in life exciting as it's so different for each kid. It makes us excited for what's to come.
A little about our current kiddos... Calvin is 8 years old, a bike riding machine that loves anything with wheels or an engine. He has also found a love for skiing and his only goal, when on the slopes, is to go as fast as possible. At this time, his career goal is to become a helicopter pilot with a puppy co-pilot.
Cecilia is 10, loves animals, and animals love her. Eventually, she wants to go to Utah State University to become a Veterinarian. She is an avid reader and is working her way through Harry Potter and a number of other series. Cecilia also loves to ski and would be on the slopes from dawn until far past dusk if we let her.
We live in an adorable rambler that isn’t too big, but not too small either. With five bedrooms, each kid has their own room and Brian has his own office. Our favorite room is the basement living room/theater. We have slowly built it up to be a kid oasis with movies, video games, books, legos, endless cozy snoopy blankets, and board games. Aside from the home itself, we love that we sit on a one-acre fenced lot with endless possibilities. The yard houses our flock of ducks and chickens, our kid loving dogs, and fire pit for late night marshmallow roasting.
One of the biggest draws to our home was the neighborhood. It is a rural, close-knit community with lots of history. It has a small town feel. Everyone knows and supports one another through thick and thin. We have neighborhood parties, fireworks, Holiday events, bonfires, rodeo, and activities. What makes it even more convenient is having the elementary and middle school less than two blocks away. The kids can walk or bike to school, after school activities are a breeze to get to, and lots of kids for play dates.
The best part about where we live is all of the outdoor activities that come from living by a mountain lake. In the summer, we spend most of our time at the lake kayaking, paddle boarding, fishing, swimming, and boating with friends. There are endless camping spots nearby and hiking trails to explore. The local theater also puts on amazing musicals during the summer and fall months that are truly a treat. During the winter months we love to sled and go skiing at the ski resort only 25 minutes from our house.
We were each raised in big families that did a lot together. Religion and family activities were integral to each of our families. Though Brian’s family may be spread throughout the country, they still get together for reunions every couple years and stay in touch through Facetime and photostream. Brittany’s family is mostly in Utah and Idaho and regularly visits one another. Holidays are almost always spent with family from either side. We are both blessed to have very close and participative families.
As far as grandparents go, we hit the lotto. Brian’s parents have an annual “grandparent’s week” where all the grandkids come to visit, do activities, and spend time with one another. Brian’s father also calls all the grandkids weekly to have them read with him or practice spelling. Brittany’s parents live nearby and are always ready to have “grandkid time.” Grandma dates, s'mores with grandpa, and skiing together. The best part, when we told all of our family members we were going to adopt it was a chorus of “YES!!!”
About Brittany, by Brian:
Brittany means everything to me. I am not sure how else to say it, but it is true. She is my best friend, and my closest ally. When I am having a rough day, I know she will always be there to listen, and boost my spirits. One of my favorite attributes about Brittany (and our relationship) is the openness we have with each other. I know that I can share anything with her - my worries, my goals, things that excite or interest me. As a software engineer, I might get excited about some new technology, and she might not know the first thing about what I am talking about, but she listens and engages with me. I love that about her.
Brittany is a very driven person. I can recall several times in our marriage where she sets a goal for herself and she reaches it, often dragging me along for the ride. For example, whilst under the 2020 lockdown, Brittany had a goal to diet and exercise for both of us. As a result of her leadership and encouragement, I was able to lose a considerable amount of weight.
We homeschooled our children for a couple of years, and I was so impressed with the amount of pure love and patience that Brittany had with the kids. She's a natural with children and is constantly thinking of things we can do together as a family. Brittany loves to spend time with family, and has always been able to focus on the individual's needs of those she is around.
About Brian, by Brittany:
Brian is an incredibly selfless person. I know that at any moment, he will drop anything to be there for me or for our children. Part of why he even began working from home, way back in college, was so he could be there for all the moments he could in the kids’ lives. That has carried him through almost all of his career, as he truly thrives when he's around his family.
I love seeing Brian play and interact with the kids. Each morning he helps them get ready for school, practices spelling, and drops them off. When we get home for the day, he is always right there to greet all of us and immediately starts helping them with homework. At night, right before bed/reading time, he will have little chats with the kids. Sometimes they are short and sweet. Other times, the kids really unload and have deep talks with him. Not once has he treated those talks like a burden. Brian loves having those tender moments with the kids.
Something very unique about Brian is his capacity to understand and be there for others. My youngest sister has Downs Syndrome and Brian has always had an amazing connection with her. It’s not always easy to build that bond with my sister as she isn't very verbal, but he goes out of his way to try and build that connection and see what needs can be met. This has shown me that no matter what our own children might bring to the table, he is up for it. He will find ways to connect and be there for them.
We met as missionaries over 10 years ago in Northern California. Picture: Endor and Jurassic Park, minus the dinosaurs and Ewoks. Simply breathtaking in every single way! Now, as much as Brian loves to tell people we dated as missionaries, it didn't happen. But, we did get to know each other and discovered we were “brain twins.” It’s just amazing how similar our brains operate. We dated for about a month after we were both home, got engaged, and married three months later in 2011. As they say, when you know, you know!
Never be afraid to be unapologetically you. Stand up for who you are, your beliefs, and what you know to be true. Know that you are eternally important to us. We love you dearly and want you to become the best version of you. Please know that you have so many people that are ready to help you in times of need. To lift you up when you fall. To listen. Be a friend. Sometimes you may feel lost, confused, or like nothing is going your way. Whatever you need, we will do everything in our power to help.
Children deserve to have love and support in their life. Why not have more love and support with an open adoption? We are ready to embrace whatever level of openness the mother is prepared for.