Physician Assistant / Pharmacist
Hello! We are Chad and Brian and are thrilled that you’re taking the time to learn about us. We live in suburban Indianapolis with our dogs, Riley and Maggie, and cat, Frank. We met while students at Butler University and have been together for eighteen years. Chad is a Physician Assistant and works in a hospital. Brian is a Pharmacist and works in the pharmaceutical industry. We are really looking forward to being dads and growing our human family and the dogs are excited too!
Our options to build a family are somewhat limited being a same-gender couple. We knew that we wanted to be parents and explored the ways we could make that happen. Adoption was clearly the best avenue for us. We are thrilled to be parents to a child even though they are not biologically related to us. We firmly believe that people choose their family members and we can’t wait to grow ours!
We live in an amazing little neighborhood in Indianapolis. Many of our neighbors have become like a second family and they are all excited to be part of the “village” that it takes to raise a child. We live near a beautiful city park and we spend a lot of time on our boat during the warm months. We are fans of great food and enjoy dinner at home, as well as trying new restaurants. Travel has been an important part of our life together, and we look forward to showing a child the world.
We are very fortunate to have wonderful family, friends, and a very tight-knit group of neighbors. Brian was born and raised in Indianapolis and though his parents have passed away, he has extended family nearby. Brian’s brother, sister-in-law, and our two incredible nieces live in Salt Lake City and we love spending time with them.
Chad grew up in rural Ohio and has a very large and supportive family, including three sisters, two brothers, five nieces, and one nephew. Chad’s mom and step-dad are at the center of the family and love to see that their legacy continues to grow!
Our families are looking forward to a new addition to the crew. Family gatherings were always a very important part of our lives growing up, and we look forward to making that a tradition for our child as well.
About Brian from Chad: There was something about Brian that caught my eye the first time I met him so many years ago. I was so lucky to get to know him and experience how incredibly kind, funny, intelligent, confident, and yet also humble he is. I love all these qualities, but I admire his compassion, humor, and empathy the most. He will literally move an ant or stink bug outside rather than kill it!
To know Brian is to like Brian. He is one of those people others are automatically drawn to and quickly find out how great he is. He is friendly, warm, and outgoing in all the right ways. I admire his personal strength and the resilience he has developed over the course of the last few years, especially after the death of his parents. He has learned a lot about himself during this time, has grown in his faith, and has an even better appreciation for the importance of family and human connection.
Brian is also an absolute master in the kitchen and loves trying new recipes. He literally has a library of cookbooks and every kitchen gadget and appliance imaginable.I know he is looking forward to making homemade baby food too! I believe that he is going to be the most incredible father and look forward to watching him become an even more fulfilled, complete person.
About Chad from Brian: After meeting Chad the first time, I knew I wanted to get to know him better. In addition to catching my eye from a physical perspective, I could immediately sense he was a kind person. It didn’t take long to confirm that I was right. In addition to being kind, Chad is intelligent, level-headed, patient, and is even-tempered. Rarely will you see him get upset about anything. He is a great listener and is compassionate towards others, which makes him great at his profession. One of his strengths is pointing out opposing sides to an argument, helping me see different perspectives.
Chad is a lover of all things outdoors, whether it’s taking a run in the park, barbecuing something on the grill, or spending a whole Sunday working in the yard. He has a “green thumb” and you should see his orchid collection! Chad enjoys being a caretaker and has been my “rock” to lean on over the past 18 years together. We have been through so many of life’s adventures, and he has supported me unconditionally the whole way. There is no doubt in my mind that he is going to be the best father, and I can’t wait to take this next step in our journey together.
We first met in a tennis class at Butler. Brian was in the more “advanced” group (though we were both amateurs), but we did have the chance to play a few matches together during the course. A mutual friend later reintroduced us and an amazing friendship developed. The friendship eventually turned into a relationship and the rest is history. After graduation, we moved to Miami, where we built a life together. Family and career opportunities brought us back to where it all began, and we’ve been loving life in Indy since 2015.
Neither of us really knows adult life without the other and we have experienced a lot together: job changes, moves, property purchases, the passing of loved ones, now children; we’ve done it all together with success. We are best friends, we enjoy doing things as a couple, and find that life together is just better.
We have a solid relationship built on a foundation of love, mutual respect, and trust. We are alike in many ways, but our differences may be what actually makes us work. We love the life we have built and are eager to grow and share it with a child.
Life is not always fair, but you can always be kind. Try to find your passion and then do more than what is expected of you and you will find success. We promise to love you unconditionally and be the stability and consistency that all children need.
We are expecting openness in our future child’s adoption story. We understand the potential benefits of an open adoption and want to do what is best for them. We also understand that there are different degrees of openness and intend to be flexible based on the individual situation and needs of the birth family.