Fire Engineer-Paramedic / Public Information Specialist-Water Agency
We are Corey and Elizabeth, and we have been married for over 8 years and have been each other’s best friend for 12! We love going on adventures together and making the most of even the small moments. Whether it is an impromptu trip to the movies or finding the world’s best grilled cheese recipe and making it that very same day, we just like to make the time we have together memorable in our own way. What we love most about our relationship is we really understand each other and we both married our best friend. We have the same level of goofiness and know how to support, motivate, and comfort each other.
We feel called to adopt because we feel God has called us to become parents. It may not be in the way we initially planned, but it is not about our plan, it is about trusting His. God knows the desires in our hearts and He knows the struggles we have been through, but He wants us to remain faithful. We have prayed for so long about our calling to adopt. We wanted to be sure that we were emotionally and financially prepared for such a calling. We believe our infertility was put in our lives with the purpose to strengthen us and to help us grow closer to God.
We feel adoption is a beautiful example of God’s love expanding beyond any expectation we could have made for ourselves. We have a loving home that we would love to give to a child helping them grow.
We live in Southern California in a moderate-sized town that is just a short drive away from the beach, the mountains, and larger cities. We bought our three-bedroom, two-bathroom home as a fixer-upper project. It needed a lot of work and we continue to make home improvements throughout the years. We have done full remodels of our bathrooms, kitchen, yard, and have made it a warm and cozy environment. Our favorite part of our home is the kitchen. It's not only where Corey makes his delicious meals, but Elizabeth believes a kitchen is also for dancing. The backyard is a desert landscape with artificial grass, a gazebo, and lots of space for entertaining, gardening, and backyard games.
Our neighborhood is quiet but we are surrounded by amazing neighbors who look out for each other. We have a diverse neighborhood with a mix of young couples with smaller children to older adults in their retirement. We live in a diverse desert community with 11 parks and multiple schools.
We both grew up very close with our families. Corey’s family is just one city over and Elizabeth’s mom lives in the same town as us (father is deceased). Corey grew up with an older brother and Elizabeth is the youngest of 4 children; a brother and two sisters. Elizabeth’s siblings live a few hours away. Together we have two nieces and two nephews. We enjoy spending time with family during holidays, special occasions, and enjoy traveling to see them.
“Corey has an amazing heart. He finds joy in making me laugh, and I can always count on his comfort and support to help me through any struggle I may be having. I know Corey will make a wonderful father because he will provide that same love and support for our child. He has always trusted in God's purpose for his life and has never doubted that someday he would become a father. His strength and faith through our journey has inspired me and gives me courage as well. I know Corey will make an amazing dad because his sense of adventure and playfulness means there will be Lego building, pillow forts, and fun bedtime stories. His strength and faithfulness means there will always be a shoulder to cry on, a big hug when our child needs one, and encouragement along every step.” -Elizabeth
“Elizabeth is a compassionate and loving woman, who has driven me to become a better man and person from the moment I met her. Liz is always prepared for the things that I might not have been thinking about when planning an outing, like packing lots of snacks and water or bringing sunscreen and tide-to-go pens for unexpected stains. Our friends have even joked calling her our "group mom" because she is prepared for anything. Elizabeth is also very driven to learn about the things she is passionate about, whether it’s choreographing a Zumba dance routine or listening to endless podcasts on adopting, she goes all in. With all of these qualities, I know she will be an amazing mother.” -Corey
We met in February of 2010 while attending a community college when we were in the same Anatomy class. Corey sat at Elizabeth’s lab table and we were immediately drawn to each other. We started out as friends and as the class continued it grew into a relationship. What first drew us to each other was our very similar sense of humor. The initial spark happened one day when we both quoted the same movie at the same time and immediately looked at each other and we were the only people at the table who understood it and laughed. We easily fell into long conversations about the same movies, shows, and interests.
Our advice to our future child is:
“Enjoy those moments in life when you feel on top of the world, but also embrace the moments that can be messy and complicated, because experiencing both is how you grow. It is how you will learn, how you will love, and how you will become your most authentic self.” -Mom
“Go into everything you do with an open heart, clear mind, and focused spirit, and don’t forget to have fun along the way. Also, that it is okay to fail, failing means you will learn, that you gave it all, that you did not quit. Treat everyone as you would like to be treated. Lastly, call your mom!” -Dad
When we very first started looking into adoption a few years ago, we did feel somewhat overwhelmed by the idea of open adoption, but we educated ourselves on what exactly open adoption is and we are inspired by the amazing stories from families that grew through open adoption. There have been incredible connections made between birth families and the adoptive families. We see open adoption as more love to give a child and two families coming together to share the journey. We believe a birth mother deserves continued support through her entire life and the decision to what involvement she would like with the child. We learned how open adoption can benefit the whole adoption triad: the birth mother, the child, and the adoptive family. It is not always easy, but when families are coming to the relationship with open hearts and mutual respect, it can be a very beautiful thing for everyone.