Software Designer / Clinical Psychologist
Multi-Ethnic / Caucasian
We are Brian and Gordon -- a responsible, yet adventurous couple who cannot wait to be parents! We pay our bills on time, exercise, and always eat our vegetables. We love being goofy and making each other laugh by making funny voices and embarrassing each other in public. We have been married for five years and are so ready for our next chapter.
We have ALWAYS wanted children - from day one of meeting. It's not really the best first date conversation, but somehow it came out very early on. As gay men, we consciously have to choose to be parents and that has always been part of our life plans, even before we met.
We like to think of ourselves as the kind of parents who encourage continuously, love unconditionally, and celebrate whoever our children are; offering them support all along the way.
Early on in dating (LONG distance San Francisco → New York!), we both shared that one day we wanted to get married and have kids. Marriage wasn’t legal everywhere for us yet but we were both hopeful that one day it would be! But we both knew that we certainly wanted kids.
In our adoption journey, we were fortunate enough to talk to adopted children, birth mothers and other adoptive parents. We fell in love with the beautiful stories we heard from the three different points of view.
We live in a cute old Victorian house with lots of light filling the open floor plan. It’s a gorgeous home filled with warmth and love. It’s a place we love to host friends and family at. At home, we love to spend time relaxing, cooking, watching movies, and planning for adoption!
Our neighborhood is family-friendly with one of the most beautiful parks in the city! It’s a very safe, super walkable, diverse community that we love. There are several parks and kid-friendly places to hang out in. We can each bike to work from our home! We also have aunts, uncles, cousins, and their kids living within the city and the surrounding suburbs.
The neighborhood is also very diverse, which is important to us. There are all walks of life living here, from race to sexual orientation, we live harmoniously within a few city blocks. We have almost everything here, from good pizza to sushi, it’s all here. There are grocery stores, kid-friendly restaurants, bars, and a bowling alley. Everything is so close, we can just walk to it all!
Gordon is a software designer in San Francisco for a tech company. He enjoys being creative and working with his team to come up with new ideas and solve problems. When he’s not at work, he likes working on home projects, riding his bike everywhere, cooking, working out at the gym, and spending time with Brian and our daughter.
Brian is a psychologist in San Francisco and works for himself downtown. He helps people work through various struggles in their lives and helps them find relief in his kind and supportive approach. He truly loves his job and is excited by helping people feel better and live fuller lives. Outside the office, Brian loves going for runs and getting coffee with friends. He can often be found on his bike next to Gordon on the way to check out the fun new restaurant, or pushing our daughter in the stroller.
We met 10 years ago in San Francisco. Brian was living out there finishing up school and Gordon was in town from New York City visiting a friend. The spark was immediate and we recognized that we shared many interests and values, such as; spending time with family and friends, traveling, biking, exploring new restaurants and coffee shops, and being silly and having a good laugh.
After a year of long distance dating, Brian ended up moving to New York to be with Gordon. We lived there together for a couple years and enjoyed all that NYC had to offer. We built a strong group of friends together and eventually moved in and shared a home together. One day, while we were taking a bike ride together, Brian proposed to Gordon on the Williamsburg Bridge in the same spot where we took our first picture together four years previously. Gordon was in shock but gave a resounding “yes!” After, we headed back to our apartment where Gordon got another shock as 30 of our family and friends jumped out to surprise him!
Be yourself. It’s not your business to worry about what other people think of you. The best thing you can be, is you!
In early 2020, we met our soon-to-be birth mother and birth father before our daughter was born. We started by texting, and then began to FaceTime, before ultimately meeting in-person. We developed a quick and fun relationship with our birth family in the three months before our daughter’s birth. The four of us decided to have an open adoption and keep contact with each other as our daughter grows up. We regularly share photos and have FaceTime calls with our daughter’s birth parents. We’re flexible with each other’s needs and continue to adapt as they change. We feel so gracious to the birth family for being open with us.