Welcome! Meet:

Howie + Cari Ann

Social Services Data Analyst / University Graduate Program Manager

Kansas

Caucasian

Other

All About Howie & Cari Ann

We hope to become an adoptive family the same way Cari Ann learned to bake outstanding chocolate chip cookies with crunchy edges, tender centers, and just-right sweetness.  Through many batches of practice, she experimented, adjusted, and kept her eye on her ultimate purpose: the very best chocolate chip cookie possible.

Our approach to growing our relationship is similar, and that's how we also hope to grow our family; with the right balance of mindfulness, empathy, flexibility, and a strong focus on the most important ingredient of all, love.

Why Adoption?

Since he started thinking about it as a young man, Howie wanted to have a family with biological and adopted children.  After many years of trying, we have moved on to open adoption! We have always hoped to have a child to love and nurture, and we can't wait to welcome an adopted child as our first. 

Family & Home

We live in a three-bedroom townhome in a quiet, diverse neighborhood, within walking distance of several parks and an elementary school.  Our community is a college town in the Midwest.  Our favorite part of living here is being close to our wonderful group of friends, many of whom have young kids.

Cari Ann’s mom and brother run the family farm about two hours away, and her sister, brother-in-law, and their two daughters live nearby.  Howie’s parents are retired and live about three hours away in the town where he grew up.  We are close with both families and see them several times each year.

How others describe me

About Howie (by Cari Ann): Considerate, musical, protective, reliable

About Cari Ann (by Howie): Dependable, honest, fun, compassionate

how we met

How We Met

We met in college but didn't date until many years later when fate stepped in.  One week after sharing a ride to a mutual friend's graduation party, Howie asked Cari Ann out for lunch. She wasn't sure it was even an official date but happily agreed,  just in case. 

It rained the day of our wedding—which we're told is good luck–so our guests ran inside and watched as we were married in the living room of Cari Ann's family farm.

Advice to Future Child

In our family, we believe in patience, kindness, and warm connections with one other as the best foundation for growth. Our hope is that you will have a happy, memorable childhood that prepares you to be a caring, compassionate adult, ready to stand up for yourself and others.  We promise to embrace your uniqueness in all its forms. When you’re old enough to share your hopes and ideas with us, we will be here to carefully listen and grow along with you.

Perspectives on Open Adoption

We believe strongly that open adoption is the best choice for everyone,  especially your child. We look forward to having an open adoption relationship and staying in touch through photos, videos, updates, and visits, depending on what you desire and think is best.  We plan on normalizing adoption in our home from the very beginning. We will always tell our child, “We’re so grateful that we adopted you; we love you so much!” so they will know from the very beginning that they were adopted and that we celebrate their birth family. 

Favorites

Howie

  • Favorite Movie: Mystery Men
  • Favorite Holiday: Thanksgiving
  • Hobbies/Interests: Music, cooking, electronics, science fiction
  • Dream Vacation: Cabin by a lake
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: Saying just the thing at just the right moment

Cari Ann

  • Favorite Movie: Pride and Prejudice (the 2005 version!)
  • Favorite Holiday: Christmas on my family’s farm
  • Hobbies/Interests: Travel, restaurants, cats, video games, pilates, stained glass art
  • Dream Vacation: Isle of Man
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: Teleportation (so I can go on vacation any time!)

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