Perspectives on Open Adoption

Open adoption is a beautiful opportunity for a child to be surrounded by SO MUCH LOVE! Kids can never be loved too much or by too many people. We think open adoption gives the gift of family to not just a child but also their birth parent(s)/family. It also respects the love a birth parent (first mom/first dad) have for their child and gives that child security in knowing they are NOT a mistake, they have been loved since before they were born. Every child deserves to know where they came from and how that has shaped who they are– we encourage this growth! Open adoption is, in our opinion, the best option for an adopted child, their birth parent(s) and our family; BUT we respect a birth parent(s) decision to not have contact if it becomes too painful. We promise to NEVER “close the door” to a future relationship if that birth parent should ever seek to reconnect. We hope that by being open and honest with our adopted child AND his/her birth parent(s), we are giving them the “whole picture” of who they are, where they came from and who they are growing to be–all within the safety, stability and security of a loving family they can trust. After having lost our daughter, we want to be sure that any birth parent(s) feels secure in the fact that the child they’ve entrusted to us is loved, safe and respected within our family–and we feel the best way to do that is to invite them to be part of our family as well! Whether or not a birth parent chooses to have an open adoption relationship with us is entirely up to them but we will speak about them to our adopted child with respect for the bravery and strength it took to place them for adoption; we will ALWAYS communicate our love and respect for the gift they gave us by choosing adoption for our child!