Advertising Project Management / Marketing Director
We want to start by saying thank you for taking the time to learn more about us. If you are reading this, you have a serious decision to make, and we’re grateful to be considered as adoptive parents of your child. It takes a lot of love and courage to consider making an adoption plan for your child. It’s also one of the most selfless things you can provide to a couple like us. Again, thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
We hope that our story will be helpful to get to know us a bit better, learn why we want to start a family, how happy our marriage is, how we plan to parent, our stability and security, and some of the traditions we hope to share with your son or daughter. If you have any questions, comments, or just want to chat, please feel free to reach out.
We are both so excited and ready to make a child our top priority. We love children and both have always dreamed about becoming fathers and devoting our lives to raising a child. To us, raising a family means providing constant love and support. We will give the basics of structure and routine while making sure we set aside time for plenty of creativity and fun. We will surround our child with strength, communication, warmth, care, and positive attention. We will tell our child how much we love him or her and how we are proud of them. Sitting down and having family meals together is vital to both of us. Family dinners help to facilitate a way to express our thoughts and feelings openly. After family dinner and once our child is ready for bed will come one of the traditions we’re most excited about partaking in daily, pre-bed reading time; it’s something that our siblings do with their children, and we can’t wait to share it with our son or daughter. He or she will get to pick out a few books from the shelf to read before bed. We will sit with him or her reading through the books before his or her nightly slumber. We both have a love for reading and a long list of our favorite children’s books we can’t wait to share with our child.
While the weekdays will be structured and have multiple daily routines, the weekend allows us to do something different. Most weekends are about visiting with members of our extended family. We’re looking forward to our child meeting his or her eight nieces and nephews, five grandparents, two uncles, four aunts, and many more cousins. There is always a birthday or holiday to celebrate, an anniversary to commemorate, or any other life achievements which provide us an excuse to all come together. Summer brings with it a lot of excuses to bring the entire family together. Our family has a pool in the backyard and not a summer weekend goes by without the sounds of children having fun and splashing around in the bright blue water. We’re delighted to be able to watch our child have fun, learn how to swim, and gain the confidence to play with his or her cousins.
We purchased our current home in June of 2019, and we could not love it more. We spent a few years living in our first home and decided we missed the sense of community and history that comes with living in a smaller Upper West Side neighborhood. A few neighbors have been living in the neighborhood for well over thirty years. They have some great stories about how the neighborhood has changed. There is a beautiful church spire that you can see outside the kitchen window when seated at the breakfast nook. It’s spacious overall and has so much character. There is a living room, dining area, and seating space with room to watch television and movies.
We are most excited about getting to start decorating the baby’s nursery. We can already picture reading to your child in the rocking chair we’ll position between the crib and the large window.
About Joe (by Bruce): Joe is amazing with children and is one of the kindest and most genuine guys I’ve ever known. He doesn’t have a sarcastic bone in his body and means everything he says. In addition to his large extended family, he has an even more extensive network of friends he treats like family. Ever since I met him over a decade ago, I knew that his unique combination of honesty, empathy, and earnestness would make for a terrific father. He’s also one of the most determined people I’ve ever met. When I first met him, he had never run a race in his life. My sisters and I convinced him to join the New Year’s Midnight run in Central Park. While it’s a challenging course for a first race, I could see how much he enjoyed it, and shortly after, he set out to run the New York Marathon, a feat I couldn’t dream of completing. He not only did it but loved the race so much he ended up running many more marathons all over the country, in addition to completing the New York City marathon a second time. It’s pretty rare to find someone who has both grit and determination alongside such a calming presence. Falling in love with Joe was one of the easiest things I’ve done. Everyone that meets him adores his kindness and curiosity. My siblings will sometimes remark that they can’t remember a time when he wasn't a member of the family.
About Bruce (by Joe): Bruce loves children and is a bright, responsible, and caring man. He is a great listener, very organized, and always has a clear sense of direction. Bruce enjoys watching movies, listening to podcasts, and exercising. Bruce has a close-knit relationship with his family, and I admire that he loves talking to his four sisters every week. I know Bruce will make a great father by the way he interacts with all of our nieces and nephews (eight in total!). I can’t wait to watch Bruce delve into fatherhood and for us to start traditions and routines of our own as a family of three.
We met back in 2010, the day after Halloween, in New York City. We both worked at the same advertising company. After attending a few company-sponsored functions and spending the entirety of the events talking to one another, we quickly realized there was something special between us. When Joe started at the company, Bruce was already preparing to leave for a new opportunity at another advertising agency. We only overlapped for a few weeks. However, it was enough for our paths to cross. We both feel so fortunate that it happened because since then, we’ve been somewhat inseparable.
Joe lived in Brooklyn’s Park Slope neighborhood and Bruce in Manhattan’s East Village. The first few years of dating, we spent much of our time together exploring each other's neighborhood restaurants and coffee shops. We introduced one another to our families and friends and went to concerts and Broadway shows. We also treasure the quality time we spent at home. One of our favorite early memories of dating was just hanging out together in Bruce’s East Village apartment with the windows wide open, playing our favorite records on the speakers.
After several years, we knew it was time to move into our first apartment together. We’re both very organized and have similar routines, so it was an easy transition. We continued to cook together, watch TV shows and spend time with family and friends. We eventually bought our home together on the Upper West Side in 2018. We’re truly blessed to have been a couple for over ten years now. We respect and love each other for the unique individuals we are.
We married at a beautiful Italian restaurant on the Upper West Side with our family and friends by our side. We reserved the whole restaurant and had over 100 people celebrating with us, from parents to cousins to life-long friends we consider family. Joe’s brother Ed and Bruce’s sister Amy gave speeches and we all toasted to love. We had amazing food, shared laughs, took photos and had music playing. We had such a memorable night, one that we’ll never forget because of the support we felt and everyone we love in the same room together.
Our advice to our future child is simply that we want him or her to know that they are loved unconditionally. They will be supported no matter what and have family and friends around at all times. We loved them before they were born and will love them until the end of time.
Our feeling is this decision should be up to the birth mother. We will take their lead on how they want to handle the relationship. We would be more than happy to have a completely open adoption, but we want to respect their wishes.