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Josh + Alby

School Counselor, Education / Center Director, Early Childhood Education

Maryland

Caucasian / Hispanic

Catholic / Christian

All About Josh & Alby

Alberto (Alby) Acosta is a year old 37-year-old Hispanic male with black hair and brown eyes. He is six feet tall and weighs 228 pounds. Alby presents as a genuine, outgoing, and sentimental man. He describes himself as a loving, selfless, caring person. His strengths include his ability to make people feel special. Areas of challenge include staying on top of administrative tasks in his home life. He demonstrates positive qualities as a husband. In his leisure time, he enjoys cooking and learning about food and wine. Alby has an online food diary that helps him connect to the local Baltimore and other cities’ food scenes. Alberto Hernan Acosta was the first of two children born to Mario and Julia Acosta, born in 1953 and 1956 respectively. His mother was previously married to Ramon Concepcion, born in 1956, and divorced before Alby was born. His parents have been happily married for 38 years and live in the Bronx, New York. Alby has a loving, close relationship with his parents. They are in good health. Alby texts or speaks with them a few times a week and visits several times a year. They support the adoption plan.

Joshua (Josh) Grubka is a 40-year-old Caucasian male with black hair and brown eyes. He is five feet, nine inches tall and weighs 229 pounds. Josh presents as a forthright, honest and hardworking individual. He describes himself as caring, steady, and driven. His strengths include consistency and reliability. He wishes he could learn to relax and take more time for self-care. He demonstrates positive qualities as a husband. In his leisure time, he enjoys playing golf, volunteering, entertaining friends, biking, and running.

Why Adoption?

Alby and Josh have been in a relationship for over 15 years and steadily built their life together to parent. The two discussed having a family early on in their relationship and took time to research all options for building their family including surrogacy, foster to adopt, and domestic adoption. Alby and Josh spent time talking with each other and doing research before moving forward. They wanted to be secure both professionally and financially. The time is now right to start their family and have determined domestic infant adoption is the best option for them. The couple is pursuing domestic infant adoption because they hope to nurture their child from infancy. Alby and Josh evaluated the changes and challenges that adoption would bring to their lives. They are aware of the realities of adoption and the adjustment parents experience after adopting. The training in which they participated, discussions with adoption professionals and their own research on adoption helped solidify their decision to adopt a child domestically. The couple has support from family and friends in their adoption journey. In addition, they are developing a network of couples who are building their families through adoption. The couple expects that their children will have ongoing connections with other adopted children.

Family & Home

Alby Acosta and Josh Grubka reside in a townhouse in northern Baltimore, Maryland. The home is located 15 minutes from the downtown cultural hub of the Baltimore City in a suburban neighborhood. The community is racially diverse and receptive to different cultures. There are several school age children for socialization. The home is equipped with smoke alarms, a carbon monoxide detector, and a fire extinguisher. This home has access to public utilities, shopping, local fire and police departments, medical services, major roadways, and recreational and cultural activities. Upon all visits, the home was found to be clean and free of environmental hazards. All dangerous household items are kept out of reach of children and appropriate child safety equipment will be obtained. There is one family pet, a dog who is properly licensed and vaccinated. She is good with interacting with children and loves the attention. There is no pool located on the property. The family does not own any firearms. This home consists of 1,296 square feet of living space and contains an eat-in kitchen, living room, dining area, and full bath on the main floor. There is a deck with outside furniture and grill on this level as well. On the upper level of the home is the primary bedroom, two guest bedrooms, and a full bathroom. The basement is finished and contains a storage and utility area, laundry area, half bath, and an exercise and television area. The child who is being adopted will sleep in a bedroom that measures 10 feet by 12 feet and has a closet, door and two windows. There is adequate space for a child to live and play in this home. It is this social worker’s professional opinion that the home is suitable for the placement of an adoptive child. Alby and Josh pledge to maintain a home and community environment that promotes the safety and wellbeing of the child. The home meets the requirements of the Standards of the State of Maryland.

How others describe me

Josh describes his husband as thoughtful and loving. Alby makes him feel appreciated daily and loves his calming and loving nature. Alby describes his husband as the love of his life. He admires his dedication to his family, faith, and advocacy for his students.

how we met

How We Met

Alby and Josh met in summer 2006 working together at the Loyola Fitness and Aquatic Center in Baltimore, Maryland where they were both students. Alby was going into his junior year and Josh was a graduate student. They were good friends for about eight months before they started dating in 2007. Josh describes his husband as thoughtful and loving. Alby makes him feel appreciated daily and loves his calming and loving nature. Alby describes his husband as the love of his life. He admires his dedication to his family, faith, and advocacy for his students. They dated for seven years before getting engaged and married on July 18, 2015, in Baltimore, Maryland.

Advice to Future Child

The first advice we’d give our future child is to not only be kind to others, but to also be kind to themselves. We’d advise to celebrate everyone’s differences, including their own. Each detail that is unique to us contributes to the world around us, allowing us to show the love we have in our own special ways. 

There will be times when others may target our differences in negative ways, but we can power through anything with self-love and with the love they will have from us, their adoptive parents. 

We’d let them know that our family may look different and that is something so special, an opportunity that each member of our family is able to experience that provides us a perspective all our own.

Perspectives on Open Adoption

Alby and Josh appreciated understanding and being shown examples of how an open relationship with birth families can be implemented. They were initially surprised that open relationships were encouraged. After the training they understood an open relationship is in the best interest of their child. Much of the training on child development reinforced what they have studied in their professional roles as educators. The training solidified and confirmed their desire to adopt. They learned positive adoption language and have started to model this language to their families and friends.

Favorites

Josh
  • Favorite Movie: Star Wars
  • Favorite Holiday/Tradition: celebrating Christmas with family at childhood home
  • Hobbies/Interests: golf, cooking, travel
  • Dream Vacation: Italy because already visited Spain
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: Wolverine’s power from X-Men
Alby
  • Favorite Movie: does not have one
  • Favorite Holiday/Tradition: spending Christmas with Josh’s family
  • Hobbies/Interests: cooking, fine dining, working out, listening to music, learning about wines, spending time with friends and godchildren
  • Dream Vacation: Italy and Australia
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: fly

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