Family Practice Physician / Realtor
Hello! We are Kyle and Cari, and we are so happy to have a chance to share a bit of our story with you as you decide what is next in yours. While the idea of growing our family through adoption brings us so much joy and excitement, we understand that in order to do so a mother will need to make many hard decisions. We admire expectant parents’ choice to explore their options. We are hopeful that one day our story will align with an expectant mother that feels a connection with us.
A little about us: Kyle is a Family practice physician and works normal daily hours with nights, weekends, and holidays off. Cari is a Realtor and stays home full time with the kids. We love spending our free time traveling, watching movies, exploring our town, and spending time with friends and family.
We have two biological children, Cash is 4.5 and Cameron (Cami) is 2. They both love running, singing, dancing, and sports! The conversations they have with each other keep us laughing and they are constantly teaching us more about ourselves. We are always singing, dancing, and running around together! We are excited to see them love their new sibling and are confident they will be the most encouraging and loving big brother and sister.
We began discussing adoption early in our dating relationship. It was always a “someday we would love to” kind of conversation. As time passed and we progressed along our career paths and became parents to Cash and Cami, we found the desire to grow our family through adoption never faded. Our church has a strong adoption community and we often hear stories from families who have adopted. Through hearing from these families and their journeys, our desire to adopt only grew.
We absolutely love being parents. The joy our kids bring us is hard to explain. With having biological children comes a level of understanding for what an expectant mother may be feeling or might feel someday. It is this understanding that has motivated us to learn about adoption from all angles. We know that adoption is so much bigger than just us and includes the child’s entire biological family. We feel well equipped to face each step of the journey in order to ensure our child feels loved, supported, and heard every single day. We are so excited for them to have two siblings as instant friends and lifelong supporters. We know in our hearts that God has called us to adoption and that our family will grow when the timing is right.
We are fortunate to live in the town where we both grew up. We live in a spacious 4 bedroom 4 bathroom home with our Great Pyrenees dog, Zeus. We spend lots of time in our basement watching movies, playing games, and making obstacle courses for the kids to run around on. We live near walking trails, parks, splash pads, and we love visiting the Children’s Zoo as much as possible!
All of our family members (Both sets of parents, and Cari’s two siblings and their spouses) live extremely close to us! Our home is right across the neighborhood pond from Kyle’s childhood home…where his parents still live! Cash and Cami love that we live a short walk away from “Gigi and Papi.”
Cari’s parents (Grammy and Grandaddy) live a short drive away at their lake house. We love visiting to boat, fish, and relax with the family! We love that our children get to grow up experiencing all that lake life has to offer while making precious memories with their grandparents, aunts, and uncles.
Our families enjoy spending time all together. We do holidays, birthdays, and even trips together. They are excited for our family to be growing and have been so supportive of our adoption journey.
Cari is the love of my life and an incredible mother. I love seeing the amount of fun she has with the kids, and how she is always putting them first. At the end of my work days I get to come home and hear from the kids about all the things they have done during the day, and how much they love spending time with Mama. Cari also works full time as a Realtor, which is great because she gets to work mostly from home, and rarely has to give up quality time with the kids for her job. I have been blessed to have her as my wife, and our family has been blessed with such a caring/kind/fun-loving mother.
I always knew Kyle would be an amazing dad. He is fun, funny, and up for anything. Kyle is a born entertainer and his humor and creativity light up our home. He is hands on and loves playing with our kids! We are blessed by his profession as a family practice physician. If any illnesses or concerns come up with the kids, he knows exactly what to do (and how to keep me calm!) When it comes to parenting, we are a great 50/50 split. He knows our kids as well as I do, and I trust him and his parenting 100%.
We were both born and raised in the same Indiana town, and we crossed paths a few times in elementary and middle school. Kyle is a year older than Cari, so we didn’t really know each other until we were in Show Choir together our junior and senior years in high school.
We started dating in 2009 and have been together ever since! We got married on July 25, 2015 at my childhood church. Kyle’s grandpa officiated the ceremony and it was truly a special day. Our friends still talk about the “Christmas in July” theme! Looking back over our almost 13 years together, we’ve been through so much: college in separate cities, Kyle’s medical school and residency, and two children! While some of those things could have put strains on our relationship, we only grew in our love and support for each other along the way. It’s pretty cool to be able to say with complete confidence that you’ve met the person you are meant to be with.
We have so many things we hope to say to our future child. They can mainly be summed up in these promises:
We believe every adoption story is different and we will do everything in our power to nurture a loving and respectful relationship with our future child’s biological family. We are comfortable with an open adoption, and ultimately we will respect the birth family’s wishes in regards to openness and communication in our relationship.
Discussions about adoption will never be pushed away in our family. We are committed to making adoption a comfortable topic and will strive to provide our child with the tools, resources, and confidence to grow into who they are meant to be. Ultimately love is the main goal, the more love our child has the better! When we said “yes” to adoption, we also said “yes” to loving our child’s biological family and respecting the forever bond that our child has with them.
As our adoption story takes shape we will be committed to continuing to educate ourselves on our particular situation. When we have questions we will not hesitate to seek guidance from people who have traveled this path before us as well as our adoption agency. This is not a journey we can do without support and we hope our child’s birth family feels genuinely supported and loved by us every step of the way.