Software Engineer / High School Teacher
Hello! Thank you for getting to know us! We have been married for 7 years and are extremely excited to start our own family. Luke is a software engineer and works remotely from our home in suburban Pickerington, Ohio, just outside of Columbus. Vanessa is a high school science teacher and works in a nearby school district. In recent years, Luke’s parents have needed increasing care due to their health concerns, so they have moved into the home with us! We also have a dog, Gracie, and we cannot wait to welcome a child into the extra space in the home and our hearts.
We enjoy spending time walking our dog, taking road trips and camping trips together, or even just sitting in the same room while Vanessa reads and Luke watches sports. We both enjoy crafting, and you will find various knitted and crocheted pieces scattered around the home. We also both have a love of gaming, and enjoy playing together as well as with our nieces and nephews when we visit.
As a couple, we struggled with infertility for about a year. Once we realized that path was going to be very challenging, we pivoted to adoption. We are very comfortable with our new path as Luke himself is an adoptee! We have always believed that love makes a family, and we know we will be able to extend that love and those values to a child placed with us for adoption. While we know that there will be challenges, we feel confident that we will be able to welcome a child into our family and become great parents.
We live in a four-level split single family home in Pickerington, Ohio, a suburb of Columbus. The home has four bedrooms, and two living spaces. Luke’s parents live in the lower portion of the house with their own living room and bathroom, and we live in the middle and upper floors. This gives us great ability to care for his parents’ needs while also maintaining our own personal space. When we welcome a child, we have a bedroom designated to be their bedroom across from ours.
Our neighborhood is fantastic, and Luke routinely comments on how lucky he feels when driving into it. Our neighbors are great, kind people with kids of their own, and folks in this area are always willing to give each other a helping hand. There is a park within walking distance in the neighborhood that we look forward to bringing our kids to. The local school district, Pickerington Local School District, is one of the best in the area, and we are excited for our children to have the opportunity to go there.
Since Luke’s parents live here, we are naturally quite close to them. They suffer from sight and mobility problems, but since Luke is here during the day to assist, they do quite well. We sit down as a family to eat dinner together every night.
Vanessa’s family still lives in Southwest Virginia, and we like to make a point to visit several times a year. We love seeing both her parents and her sister’s family - our nieces and nephews are a joy to visit, and we have grown close to them in spite of the distance.
Luke would say Vanessa is a kind and loyal person. Her care for others and deep empathy is amazing, and part of why he fell in love with her. She will help anyone who needs it, in any way she can, and she never fails to put a smile on his face.
Vanessa would say that Luke is a very intelligent, logical and caring person. He puts his entire heart into caring for those that he loves and is always there if someone needs a hand. Luke is also compassionate towards his community and volunteers often to give back. The time we spend together, even just existing in the same room, is her favorite part of the day.
We grew up together in Southwest Virginia and were in the marching band together in school. We were high school sweethearts, and Vanessa followed Luke to Ohio when he moved for college. We were so dedicated to one another that we got married in college, and the rest is history. We loved Central Ohio after school and decided to build a family here! Our long-standing bond and deeply cultivated relationship make us feel confident that our family is ready to take on any challenges as a strong team, including parenthood.
You don’t have to be the best, you just have to be a good person. People will always remember how you made them feel more than anything else.
Take a deep breath, and always remember that you can do hard things.
We’ll always be there for you, and we love you no matter what.
We believe in honesty and transparency as core values. We want our children to know their own story, including adoption, from the moment they’re born. We believe it’s a positive thing for our children to have a connection to their birth parents, and that it is best for everyone if the birth family knows how the children are doing. We are open to a discussion about various forms of contact, depending on the birth family’s comfort level.