Molecular Laboratory Technologist / Veterinarian
None / Catholic
Hi- we’re Matt, Julia and Isaac along with our dog Matilda!
Thank you for taking the time to learn about us. Trying to figure out what’s best for your child is a brave, difficult thing to do. We’d be honored if you choose us to love your child as much as you do.
We wish you could come sit on our porch, have a drink and a slice of strawberry rhubarb pie (Matt makes a wicked good crust!). Our dog would ask for a belly rub. We might get distracted by Isaac asking us to read him a story or Julia pointing out which bird is at the feeder (many look like squirrels). But we would get to know each other. With adoptive family members and friends already, we know this journey is bittersweet. But we’d like to listen to you- only you can tell us what your story is.
Please read on to get to know us but here’s a few thoughts about the life we would provide.
♥️ will be loved unconditionally and helped to become whoever they want to be through play, education, travel and support from many loving family and friends.
♥️ will have their ethnicity and heritage be a full part of their personal identity and our family identity.♥️ will be raised to ask questions, explore and be an advocate for change.
♥️ will likely visit all the National Parks, always have a pet of some sort, love books and know how to grow everything from apples to zucchini.
We hope to become part of your journey and all build our family together- creating lives built on love, learning and laughter. We’ll bring the pie.
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We love being parents! Our flexible work schedules allow us to put home and family first. We long to welcome a new little person into our lives- one with different needs, perspectives and interests to cultivate and love. Also, Isaac can’t wait to be a big brother! Although a second pregnancy is not in the cards, adoption is not a second choice. Julia looked into adoption before we met. Many of Matt’s family members joined us through, as his grandmother lovingly put it, the blessing of adoption. Yet just because it’s a blessing, doesn’t mean it’s easy. We’ll work to make sure you never regret the trust you place in us. Our hearts welcome expanding to include you and yours. We’ll do everything it takes for everyone to thrive in a family built on both love lines and blood lines.
OUR HOME AND COMMUNITY
When we were expecting Isaac, we bought an older home with lots of charm. It’s a work in progress but don’t get us started on how far we’ve come! With the help of Matt’s parents and DIY videos, we’ve refinished the floors, reinstalled stairs and tiled the kitchen, just to name a few things. It’s finally at a point where it feels like a home- lots of light and comfortable spaces to laugh, dance, zone out and vent. We have some landscaping work to do, but we did fit in a vegetable garden this year. And there’s plenty of yard to do things like build a snowman or play fetch with Matilda!
Just 40 minutes outside of Boston, our house is in a quiet, diverse neighborhood. There are lots of kids on our street, always riding their bikes or playing ball with each other. We have a small block party every summer. There is a great park just a few blocks away, with acres of trees and several small ponds. We spend many sunny afternoons there walking the dogs, flying kites or watching the ducks and geese.
Many town festivals are held in the park. We’re looking forward to enjoying the excellent school system and adore going to our local library and farmer’s market. Our community and surrounding towns are full of nature preserves, working farms and museums that we frequently visit too.
OUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Matt comes from a large family- most of whom live within an hour drive, though his sister and brother live in other states. Many of them have children around Isaac's age. We visit with Matt’s parents (Mimi and Grampy to Isaac) in Rhode Island regularly, and his siblings come up several times a year. We're fortunate that Mimi and Grampy are nearby and always happy to help out! Matt's sister has three young kids, so we do Facetime with the cousins often. Matt also has many friends in the area from his college days and hosting trivia. Julia’s family is more scattered- her parents and both brothers live out of state and we see them less often.
Since Julia has lived in several states, she has a large network of friends we consider part of our family too. One of her closest friends, Mohita, lives in California with her family- we visit every year. They can't wait to show the redwoods to our next little one! We are grateful to have a diverse village to love and learn from. Everyone is excited and supportive of welcoming another little one into the bunch!
ABOUT MATT (by Julia)
People think Matt is friendly, smart and funny, probably because they've seen him host trivia or heard one of his jokes (not all of them are dad jokes) or received a well-thought-out gift from him. And they're right. But he is so much more than that to me. He reminds me to have a little faith and a sense of humor when things look dark. Matt accepts people for who they are and appreciates their quirks. His attention to detail and focus is so good that he rebuilt our stairs just using YouTube videos (and tools...he had tools too). He has a genuine empathy and appreciation of other people that has kept him connected to so many friends and family.
Whether it's making a delicious meal from leftover ingredients or ensuring we are fully prepared for any eventuality on a trip (he has batteries for his batteries), he's a partner I can always rely on for support and fun. As a father, Matt encourages Isaac to be silly, figure things out and explore. He does the best character voices when reading and engages Isaac in everything from fixing a light to baking chunky monkey bars. I can't wait to see him with another son or daughter doing things like improvising silly lullabies and digging in the dirt for worms.
ABOUT JULIA (by Matt)
When I first met Julia, I was drawn to her quick wit and friendly personality. I’ve always enjoyed our deep conversations- our first date was just for lunch and we talked for three hours! Soon our dogs had met and all four of us were hiking together. As we continued on our path (see what I did there?), my life grew richer with Julia alongside. At heart she is a genuine person, always up-front. The challenges she faced as a child and young woman have made her a more understanding, accepting person. She reminds me that there is always more to learn, even within ourselves. Her strong values of honesty and persistence guide her every day and win her the respect of the people she meets.
She brings that same persistence, patience, and lots of love on her path through motherhood. Teaching a love for nature is high on her list. Isaac enjoys hearing what kind of animals his mom saw at her work, and they delight in spotting the birds and other animals we see outdoors. Julia is so creative- rainy days have led to all sorts of indoor obstacle courses and microwave soap experiments (that one didn't work out so well, but we did learn something). When I hear her rich imagination at work improvising a bedtime story, and neatly weaving a lesson into it- I smile at the thought of her teaching another little one.
Isaac is a smart, sweet pre-schooler. His main hobbies are books, building things and making up stories about space and superheroes. He loves doing what the grown-ups do, especially cooking and helping in Grampy’s garden. His favorite stuffed animal is a bunny he's had since he was 4 months old. It no longer plays music, but as he says, it's still a good bunny.
One priority as parents is to help our kids be happy and healthy. Understanding your own feelings and respecting others' feelings is a big part of that. We try to help Isaac listen to his feelings without being overwhelmed or scared of them. Another parenting priority is to give him opportunities to pursue what interests him, as well as developing the confidence to try new things. His activities have included Tinkergarten, gymnastics, soccer and swim lessons. As he gets older, he'll be able to better choose for himself.
With two children, another goal would be to create a close sibling bond so they will always have each other to lean on. Isaac loves playing with his cousins and our friends' children; he will be such a kind, fun big brother! When asked why he wants a sibling, he says he wants to hug them and feed them a bottle.
Although we both grew up in New England, we didn’t meet until our late thirties (thank you, OKCupid!). Julia was hard to pin down, as she was off working in conservation and as a veterinarian in 8 different states. Matt was busy playing with DNA in the lab and hosting pub trivia. Our first date ended with us sailing paper airplanes; over the next year, we fell in love bonding over our similar sense of humor and love of science and nature. Our families joke that we played catch up on the milestones: a proposal after hiking the Inca Trail, a rustic wedding, bought a fixer-upper house and had a baby all in the space of a few years. It wasn’t easy- we started late building a family. There were other complications too, including house hiccups and fertility struggles.
Through it all, we took it one step at a time and stayed optimistic. We’re not perfect but who is? We buy local, recycle and volunteer but not as often as we’d like. Our jokes are plentiful and often corny. Our home’s DIY list will never end. But we keep things real and take pleasure in the small things, like picking berries or cooking together. We get outside a lot: hiking, sledding, snowshoeing, hayrides, beach… there’s fun to be had in every season! Our ups and downs have taught us to depend on and trust each other. And after 6+ years of marriage, we’re still having fun together and making room for the occasional adventure.
Be curious about the world.
Accept yourself and others for who they are. Being honest and forthright with others builds their respect for you. Being kind to others feels good, and returns good to you.
A glass of milk and warm homemade cookies are good for you. So is laughing, playing and having fun- each should be done at least once a day.
Everyone makes mistakes- it’s what we do about them and how we learn from them that counts!
If you genuinely like a type of art, music, literature, food, wine, film, etc. then that makes it good. Don’t worry whether other people like it or not.
Take care of the important things: give back to your community, make time for your family and friends, live sustainably, vote etc.
Open adoption is in the best interest of everyone. Every child has the right to know where they come from and that they are loved. Every parent has the right to know that their child is safe, loved and happy. We hope that our families can merge into an extended family with visits, phone calls, letters- whatever your comfort level.