A dear friend of mine recently shared a heartwarming sentiment, saying, "You have such a nurturing and loving nature, and patience that never ends." I cherish these qualities passed down from my parents – my mom's warmth and my dad's entrepreneurial spirit. Together, these traits inspired me to establish my own marketing analytics company more than 15 years ago, however now my favorite job is being a mom, it’s my “yes”, my reason to be. It is both the hardest and most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. For fun, I adore sun-soaked beaches, where I can dive into the waves and ride my boogie board. My son, Jack, shares my love for adventure and eagerly looks forward to every "swimming beach" trip. When I'm not in the water, I enjoy engaging in various sports, with tennis being a personal favorite. But what brings me the most joy these days is spending time outdoors with my son, Jack, and sharing our love for adventure and play!
Adoption has profoundly impacted my life in countless ways, including the incredible experience of becoming an adoptive mother. As I envisioned the family I want to be a part of, my priority was to provide a nurturing, safe, and loving home for a child, rather than focusing on a biological connection. With my deep personal connection to adoption, I chose this path to grow my family and it has proven to be the most rewarding decision, filling my life with abundant love.
I truly appreciate the significance of birth family connections, and I am open to any level of support and involvement that you feel comfortable with. Whether it's maintaining close ties, sharing updates and milestones, or respecting your desire for more distance, I believe in honoring your preferences and fostering a relationship that works best for all of us. We have frequent visits with some of Jack’s extended birth family, and share photos and updates with others, understanding and respecting their unique story. I wholeheartedly believe that a child can never receive too much love, and our unique family is a testament to that.
A few years back I took the long way back to the office after lunch and came across this amazing piece of property: up on a hill overlooking downtown with a waterfall, pond, and park right below it. I couldn’t have picked a better neighborhood; one of my neighbors is a high school classmate. Almost everyone has young children and lots of space to explore in their backyards, it’s in one of the top school districts in the state, and the street ends in a cul-de-sac. My two rescue cats, Tiger and Lilly, are now 15 years old, so they’ve slowed down a bit but haven’t stopped wanting attention and love getting cuddles and pets from my son.
“Spot” was a game my brother and I made up as kids on the long drive out to Denver to visit our cousins. It involved only a mirror and the sun and I’m not sure there was a winner, but we still had a ton of fun. My brother and I were close growing up and remain so today, although now my role has transformed from older sis to “Aunt Shel” to his four young children. My parents and my brother’s family love our annual trip to the beach in California. Last year during our trip, we all had Thanksgiving dinner together at my son’s biological grandparents’ house, a very special event!
My parents moved to my town a few years back and are a daily influence in my son’s life. He is such an important part of their life that they resist going out of town unless we are already planning to be gone and they can’t wait for another little one to love on and see my family grow!
I consider my son’s biological family my extended family, which adds his two great-grandparents, three grandparents, four aunts, one uncle, and four cousins! We’ve been lucky to meet all of them except one of the great-grandparents and all can’t wait to welcome another family member.
My friends know they can always count on me, I’m flexible, reliable and steady as a rock. They marvel at the patience I have with my son and have watched me embrace all the new feelings that being a parent has created. I’m laid back, yet love experiencing and trying new things.
When I dream of the days ahead with a future child, I often imagine the advice I'd share with them. I'd tell them that life is a beautiful journey, filled with both challenges and victories, and that both are essential in shaping who we become. Always trust in the strength of your heart, embrace every experience as a lesson, and know that even in moments of uncertainty, you're never alone. I'd remind them to cherish the ties that bind our hearts — like the profound connection between you, me, and them. And above all, I'd emphasize the importance of understanding and kindness. Just as I will always strive to understand and support their journey, I would want them to extend the same compassion to others, including honoring the story and love of their birthmother.
I am wholeheartedly open to sharing my story with you, and I'm eager to learn about yours. I may not know what has led you to this moment or where life will take you, but I believe that sometimes our greatest challenges can transform into incredible adventures, and our deepest sorrows can give birth to the most profound joy. Your story is unique and remarkable, and if you were to choose me to raise your child, it would be an honor to include them in the pages of our lives—celebrating your legacy.
I believe that finding the right balance of involvement, tailored to the unique needs and desires of the birth family, can be in the child's best interest. I am committed to respecting your preferences, whether that means maintaining close connections, sharing updates and milestones, or honoring your wish for more privacy. My son's birth families and extended families play a significant role in our lives, but I understand that every situation is unique. I share this to demonstrate my commitment to the well-being of any child I am fortunate enough to parent, and my willingness to adapt to the level of support and involvement that works best for everyone involved.
I understand that considering adoption must require immense courage and selflessness on your part. At this extraordinary junction, we meet as strangers, yet we have the opportunity to create a new path together. Everyone faces life's challenges in their own way, and I cannot presume to know what you may be experiencing as you contemplate an adoption plan. However, I hope to offer you my support in any way that aligns with your needs and desires.