Welcome! Meet:

Nick + Katie

Naval Aviator / Public Health Researcher



Catholic / None

All About Nick & Katie

“Active” is probably the best way to describe our lifestyle; active with our friends and families, active in our community, and active physically. We love the outdoors and experiencing new places and adventures, but we equally love spending time in our home that we built and with the family and friends who surround us. We both work during the week and try to maximize our evenings and weekends. Katie has a more flexible work schedule and mainly works from home, whereas Nick works a more typical 9 to 5 schedule. Katie loves to cook and bake and luckily Nick loves to eat! The weekends are full of activities with friends and family and usually some type of project around the house. We live near many friends so casual drop bys to hang out, share dinner or a movie are common. We’re lucky to live in Southern California near the beach, so we try to get a bike ride together to see the ocean every weekend. We have a camper van “Westy” that we take out often to camp on the beach or in the nearby mountains. Each year, we try to squeeze in a couple longer road trips or travel outside the U.S. to experience a new place and culture.

We promise that your child will be loved and cherished beyond measure. We have spent 8 long years hoping and praying for a child to enter our life, staying open to however and whenever that may happen. While we are grateful for the wonderful things we do have, more than anything, we are waiting for the magical day that we become parents. We can’t wait to share the love we have for each other with your child and to help them build their dreams, whatever they may be.

Why Adoption?

We have a lot of love to give and think that a family is made, not born. When we first started talking about having a family together, we learned that we both shared an interest in adopting. We thought we would try to have a child together and then grow our family through adoption, but life had a different plan for us. After trying fertility treatments and lots of conversations about what we truly wanted, we decided to put our focus on adopting instead of spending more effort on a biological child. We want to share our life and love for each other with a family and couldn’t feel more strongly about putting all that love toward a child already in the world who needs a loving and stable home. That decision felt right when we made it years ago, and our commitment and excitement for adoption has remained strong. We have a close family member who made the choice to place a child for adoption when younger. We’re grateful that she’s shared what that process was like for her back then and the many years since. This has given us a much better awareness of the perspective of everyone involved, not just our own experience. We hope that will help us support not just each other and our future child, but also their birth mom as we all navigate this relationship together.

Family & Home

Our home is very special to us. We purchased it in the fall of 2017 and, together with Nick’s parents, did a full renovation. It was a lot of work, but we now get to live in the home that we dreamed up and literally built with our own hands. We designed it with our future family in mind, so there are two bedrooms for kids that we can’t wait to fill! It’s bright, airy and we have a big, open kitchen and living room area as we love to cook and have our friends and their kids over. We have a piano that also brings people together to belt out our favorite tunes! We have a large private backyard area and this year we built a deck, garden and planted a lot of trees to make it a great place to hang out! We love our neighborhood for so many reasons. First, several of our best friends live within two blocks of us. It makes it so easy to get together and share little moments like quick walks around the block or chats on the porch. We also share a condo with friends in Utah so we visit there often to spend time in the mountains together and visit with one of Nick’s sisters who lives nearby.

We have already built a community of close friends from many different racial and ethnic backgrounds, religions, and sexual orientations and really value having many different traditions and influences in our life, from holidays, to food, and music. We have shared our adoption journey with our friends and asked several of them to help guide us should we be matched with a child of a different race or ethnicity. Three of our closest friends are biracial and are excited to be “Wisdom Aunts and Uncles” to this child and help us on our journey if we were to become a transracial family and help our child develop a positive racial identity. We are both very close with our families and love spending time with our parents and siblings. Nick’s parents and brother live on our street and can’t wait to help care for a new baby! His sisters also live in the west and we see each other many times each year. Katie has two older brothers who have six kids among them. One of our most cherished trips is getting everyone together every summer at their family cabin.  All of our family, especially our nieces and nephews, are anxiously awaiting our newest family member. Katie’s mom is already knitting in preparation! Having been the aunt and uncle for so many years, we can’t wait to see the special relationships our child will develop with our siblings and parents. Whether it’s Katie’s brothers teaching them how to fish, or Nick’s sisters training them to be Olympic runners, they will be surrounded by a loving and dedicated family.

One of the reasons we bought our home where we did is because of the diversity of the neighborhood.  Our neighborhood is a true melting pot of cultures and more than 50% of the population are from a non-white racial or ethnic group. Within blocks from us, there are restaurants, markets, community centers and events from Africa, Latin America, Southeast Asian and the Middle East. There are two elementary schools within walking and biking distance from our home. Students from minority racial and ethnic groups make up a majority of students at both so a child will be able to interact daily with kids from their own and many other cultures. From our friends with kids, we know that the schools incorporate this diversity into what they teach and celebrate.

How others describe me

Katie is the center of our families and our friend group where she inspires us all to be a little more kind, more informed, more selfless and more engaged by her example. When we were just friends her approachability gave me the courage to try to keep up with her as she rode her bike everywhere, was becoming a Public Health expert and pursuing a doctorate, proposed amazing trips and adventures and was always there for friends and family in every aspect of their life. When we kissed at the campfire on one of those trips, I thought I was really going to have to step it up to keep up with her in a relationship. As our romance grew, I realized it wasn’t a competition to accomplish the most or have the most epic adventures for Katie. She is just generous with her incredible gifts to others. She is absolutely brilliant, and still she has no hesitation in admitting when she doesn’t know something, though she always knows how to go about figuring it out or finding the person who can. Whether it’s defending a PhD or completely renovating a house, she tackles hard tasks methodically and capably. When her friends have hard problems; with heartache or illness or disappointment, they come to her to help address them and so do I. When anyone is in need, she is there to find the solution and give whatever help is necessary to achieve it. And when there is something to celebrate, she always remembers no matter how small and creates the space for everyone to share their gratitude and joy. That joy we have in our life will grow even more with the adoption of a child into our family and the boundless love she gives as a friend, a sister and an aunt will be even more powerful as a mother. She is absolutely beautiful, inside and out, and I can’t contain my excitement to be able to share the experience of leading a little one into the world with her.

I can remember really clearly when I fell in love with Nick. We had been getting to know each other within our larger friend group doing a lot of fun things around town. But it wasn’t until we started taking trips together that I got to see who he really was on the inside. I remember one trip specifically where he and I were both excited to go mountain biking and took several of our friends who were less experienced. He probably did twice as many miles that day as he constantly kept riding back to make sure that everyone was doing okay and no one was left behind. He cares first about everyone else’s needs before his own and doesn’t wait to be asked to offer to help someone.  As the oldest of four siblings, he’s probably always been this way. He’s also dedicated himself to serving our country in the military and has never been anything but gracious about the sacrifice that has required.  He’s incredibly sweet, patient and kind and I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve heard him complain. Nick is also one of the smartest and most capable people I know. We jokingly refer to him as “Nickipedia” as he has an incredible amount of knowledge about almost any topic and can figure out how to do anything. Whether it’s fixing the electrical system on our old Westfalia or jumping on a surfboard, he’s just good at everything he does. He’s more reserved than me but shares a very silly side with those he’s closest with. My favorite moments are seeing what things make him laugh so hard he cries. He is incredibly respectful and I love that we can communicate completely honestly and calmly with each other about anything, big or small. He has been so supportive of making sure I follow all my dreams and I love that we are constantly scheming and dreaming about the life we want to build together. I know from experience what an incredible partner Nick is to me and I know in my heart what an amazing dad he’s going to make.

how we met

How We Met

We met through our friends, which is the best way to meet someone to spend the rest of your life with! Nick moved into the same building as Katie’s best friends and they immediately declared that they’d found “the one” for her.  There were a lot of “not so chance” encounters to bring us together, which are pretty funny to look back on now. But it worked and a spark formed pretty much right away. We took time building our relationship though, which drove our friends crazy since they had already decided we were meant to be. Our romance was built on a strong foundation of the friendship that came first. It was easy to spend time together since we both loved many of the same things like biking, camping, skiing, music, and traveling and we had the added bonus of a mutual group of friends built in!

Advice to Future Child

Be curious about the world and people in it and seek ways to make it better. Find the joy that comes from building a strong community. Find what you love and learn the sense of accomplishment that comes from working hard to achieve it.  Develop a deep sense of gratitude, humility and compassion for others.

Perspectives on Open Adoption

We hope that you will get to share your story yourself and in your own way. We’d love for you to be a part of their life and so that they can understand your choice from your perspective, but of course respect your wishes as to what relationship you want to have. Know that however much or little we are in each other’s lives, your gift to us will always be central to our family. We believe in being open and honest with our future child and will share as much about your life and dreams as you’d like us to.


  • Favorite Movie: The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou
  • Favorite Holiday/Tradition: being Katie Christmas’ helper elf setting up the tree and decorations in our house to kick off the holiday season
  • Hobbies/Interests: biking and building bikes, skiing, camping, traveling, flying
  • Dream Vacation: a biking and skiing adventure across Japan with Katie
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: teleportation
  • Favorite Movie: Dirty Dancing
  • Favorite Holiday/Tradition: decorating the Christmas tree while listening to old Johnny Mathis Christmas hits
  • Hobbies/Interests: running, pottery, skiing, biking, volunteering, camping, traveling
  • Dream Vacation: visiting a beautiful place with people I love to experience new adventures, foods, and cultures
  • If I Could Choose a Superpower: flying

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