Film / TV Producer / Director at Digital Agency
Hey there! Thank you for taking the time to read through our profile and consider us as adoptive parents. It takes a lot of bravery and strength to be a birth mother, and even more so to place a child for adoption. We have so much respect for you and we pledge to do everything we can to make you feel comfortable and supported throughout this journey. We’ve always wanted to be parents and are so excited about the opportunity to bring a child into our home. If you’d like to connect, please feel free to reach out to us at any time. We look forward to meeting you!
We have talked about wanting to become parents and starting a family from the beginning of our relationship and always saw it in our futures since we were young. As a same-sex couple, adoption is the best way to make it happen. We are ready to bring a child into our home and we’re grateful to the birth mothers who make parenting a reality for us same-sex couples. We have friends who are adopted themselves (transracially) or grew up with adopted siblings. We also have friends who are parents of adopted transracial children. They’ve all been great resources and are very supportive of us growing our family. We feel fortunate that our future child will have this network around them as well.
We own our 3 bedroom home in Los Angeles and spent the past year renovating it from top to bottom. We have a big kitchen to cook and hang out in, a nursery for our future child, and a guest room to host family and friends for visits throughout the year. There’s a big backyard with a 100-year-old oak tree and swing which our friend’s kids love to play in. We know most of our neighbors and they’re all friendly, diverse and family-oriented. Our neighborhood is quiet and peaceful, while also being alive with beautiful nature-filled hills and many interesting places to explore. There are great schools, a park with a playground and community pool, all within walking distance. Restaurants, coffee shops, movie theaters, and a Zoo are nearby too. It’s impossible to get bored here.
Most of our extended family are on the East coast in the New England area so we all make regular trips across the country to spend quality time together. We also talk on the phone and FaceTime often to keep in touch and share updates. Every Christmas, we do a two-week, multi-state road trip to see everyone. On Christmas morning, we all come down the stairs singing “Jingle Bells” which is something Ross’ mom did with her family growing up, and it’s a tradition we plan to keep going in the generations to come. We love to cook big meals together and each of us has a specialty dish to contribute. In particular, Ross’ dad makes an amazing persimmons bread and there are never leftovers. Alex’s mom is an excellent cook (which is where Alex gets it from!) and she makes a quiche we never stop talking about. We’re close with Ross’ sister, her husband, and Ross’ cousin who lives in London and like to take group trips together. We have one planned to Puerto Rico for the spring! We put together a great guest room that hosts family for visits during the year, and our parents are planning to come for extended stays to be with us more often once we have a child. Last year we hosted our first Thanksgiving and family flew out to join. We’re hoping to make that a new tradition, especially so we can have Ross’ mom’s twice-baked potatoes!
About Ross by Alex: Ross has been preparing to be a parent his entire life. Raised by two very capable and loving parents, Ross grew up learning to do anything and everything around the house – from gardening to handiwork. If there is something he doesn’t know, he researches and studies until he could ace any pop quiz on the topic. His top priority in life is nurturing lifelong relationships with family and friends and making sure people feel taken care of whenever they're in his presence. He provides, not only for his family and friends, but his community by being a great neighbor. I have never worried about facing any of life’s challenges with him by my side. I couldn’t ask for a better partner and any child would be lucky to have him as a father.
About Alex by Ross: Alex is an amazing partner and friend. He has the biggest heart and is a natural caretaker. He’s truly a glass-half-full kind of person, always trying to find the good in people and situations. He’s very intelligent and happens to be great at math, so he’ll definitely be the one to help with math homework in our house. He’s an excellent cook and fills our home with healthy and delicious meals. He’s very creative and can come up with a meal using any ingredients we have in the fridge, making sure nothing goes to waste. Together, we balance each other and make a really great team. As a father, he will shower our child with love and support and will always make sure they are heard. He’ll help our child be social, educated, creative, and to have a great sense of humor.
We’re both transplants from the East Coast, Ross from Connecticut and Alex from New York. Coincidentally, we went to college in Boston and had mutual friends, but didn’t meet until years later after having moved out to Los Angeles. In 2016 a mutual friend wanted to set us up, but before they got the chance, we swiped right on Tinder and the rest is history. We instantly hit it off and began building our lives together. In 2019, Alex proposed at the same hike we had taken on our second date, a place called the Wisdom Tree. We eloped with a small virtual ceremony in 2020 during the Covid-19 shutdown, and had an in-person wedding with our family and friends this year. We share similar interests – the love of healthy home-cooked meals, hiking and exploring nature together, traveling to different places both near and far, movie nights, game nights, spending time with family and friends and snuggling our pets. We’re both compassionate people who believe in empathy, honesty, good communication,humility, and knowing how to laugh. We made a pledge early on to never go to bed angry and we stick by it.
Life is hard and there will be big highs as well as many lows, but nothing you go through is actually as bad as it seems in the moment. Having perspective is a big part of life and it takes time to develop. Focusing on positives, being a team player, and treating people with kindness will take you far. Don't worry about having everything figured out, the truth is that nobody does even if they pretend they do. We are all continuing to learn and grow throughout life. We promise to be there for you every step of the way, and to share the experiences we’ve had.
We want our child to know their story including how they entered this world and how we became their parents. We’d love to keep the lines of communication open so both the birth mother and child can connect when it feels right for them, and so we can help answer questions the child may have as they grow up. Ultimately we want to do what’s best for the child and to honor the level of openness that feels comfortable for the birth mother.