Caucasian / Asian
Hello! Thanks for viewing our profile. We are Tom and Qi (pronounced “chee”) from the San Francisco Bay Area. We have very different backgrounds (Tom grew up in California and Qi grew up in China), and we love the richness that this has brought into our family. Our shared faith is very important to us. It gives us hope because we know that God’s plans for His children are good. God is the foundation of our marriage and will be our family's foundation as we raise our children. We will teach our kids that they are precious, and there’s nothing they can ever do to make God or us love them any less.
Speaking of kids, we both love kids! Even before we got married, we each volunteered with foster kids and kids at orphanages. We are looking forward to growing our own family through adoption and have a wonderful community of family and friends who are excited to walk with us on this journey.
If you choose us to be the parents of your child, we want you to know that your child will know nothing but love. Our hope is that our child will maintain a relationship with you, in whatever way is most comfortable for you.
Whatever you choose, we pray that you will receive the support, love, and care you need throughout this process, and that you will be at peace with your decision.
Early on in our relationship, we discovered not only that we both desired to start a family, but also that we were both very open to the idea of adopting a child. Although we have not been able to conceive on our own, we believe that someday soon we will welcome children into our family, and we can't wait to meet them! We truly hope to have an ongoing relationship with the birth family, in whatever way feels the most comfortable for everyone involved.
Tom: I'm the youngest of four brothers and grew up in California not far from where Qi and I live now. I even stayed in California for college, earning a bachelor’s and master’s degrees in Industrial Engineering from Stanford. I now work in project management for a high-tech company, and really like my job (on most days). I wanted to be a baseball player when I grew up and still love sports - my favorites are basketball and Ultimate Frisbee. Before I married Qi, I would rarely attempt projects around the house, but once I became a husband, my "inner handyman" emerged! In fact, Qi has said that among all the raised beds in our garden, the one I built is definitely the best. Kids have always been an important part of my life, so the idea of becoming a father seems very natural to me. I have volunteered at orphanages in Russia and Mexico, and have led music at camps for foster kids. Currently, I lead a group of 6th-grade boys at church.
Qi: I grew up in China and came to the United States more than 20 years ago. As a child, I received lots of love from my parents, two older sisters, grandparents, and many aunts, uncles, and cousins. My parents worked very hard and sacrificed a lot to give me and my sisters' opportunities to reach our full potential. After graduating from college, I got a Master’s in Business Administration and worked in various finance and business positions in the technology industry. I now enjoy the more relaxing rhythm of home, cooking, gardening, and taking care of our household. I live very close to one of my sisters, who is my best friend, and her 11-year-old son. I have been very involved with caring for my nephew since he was a baby - from diaper changes, feedings, and putting him to sleep, to now driving him to summer camps, and having more serious "life conversations", I've loved everything about our relationship. I've also had the opportunity to teach Sunday School for the past several years and volunteer as a counselor at a camp for foster children. These experiences have confirmed my love for children and strengthened my desire to be a mom someday soon.
Qi Says: Meeting Tom was one of the best things that ever happened to me. His strong faith helps carry us through the ups and downs of our journey together. Tom always reminds me that God's plan for us is good (and then encourages us to do our part!). Tom is an incredibly patient man. He never makes anyone feel rushed, which is more and more rare in our world. No matter what he needs to accomplish, Tom always finds a way to make our marriage his priority. Tom often rearranges his schedule for others, for example, to go swimming with our nephew on short notice. When he's not working, Tom makes time to help around the house -- doing the dishes, taking out the trash, or fixing things. Tom also has a great sense of humor, although I didn't realize it on our few first dates because he was so nervous! Now he makes me laugh every day.
Tom Says: Qi is a compassionate person by nature. Qi is dependable, smart, and wise. Whenever I need to make an important decision, Qi is the first person I turn to for input. I feel greatly respected by Qi and appreciate how she also asks for my opinion about important things because she genuinely wants to know what I think. Qi is also an excellent cook! For Qi, whether she's researching different styles of food for our multi-ethnic family, or preparing meals for her friends who are facing challenges such as cancer or the loss of a loved one - her cooking is about blessing others.
As I've watched Qi lovingly care for our nephew (and the kids at our church) over the years, I have no doubt in my mind that she will be a truly fantastic mom. One thing about Qi that will make her a great mother is that she loves unconditionally. This kind of love will allow Qi's children to try new things and take risks, knowing that mom is always cheering them on.